The process of proposing a girl to be your life partner
good luck with your activities for all steemians friends...
in our lives we need a companion to build a household, but to propose to a woman we must go through several stages according to the customs and culture of our respective places.
parents who have grown-up daughters are very anxious if they have not found a match as their life partner, especially in today's modern era where free association often occurs and unwanted things happen, be grateful if someone proposes to their daughter to be their life partner.
as is the custom in our area, if a young man and a girl like each other, then the parents will propose to the girl, which means that the local community already knows that the girl already has a partner, she is not allowed to accept someone else's proposal of course according to procedure.
the proposal also carries a sign in the form of a partial dowry and is known by the parents and village officials, mutually determining the time to hold a marriage contract as a requirement for the validity of a husband and wife according to religious teachings..
cake and ranup decorations as souvenirs that have become a tradition when wanting to propose to a girl, as well as a makeshift dowry to strengthen a relationship and if at some point it cannot be continued or broken off for certain reasons then the dowry will be returned because they are not yet officially husband and wife.
before the marriage contract takes place, the two prospective brides and grooms are not allowed to live together and live in the same house, even though they have brought a sign or proposed to her, according to religious law, what is required to become husband and wife is the marriage contract, which is married by the female guardian in front of witnesses and recognized by the religious affairs office to obtain a marriage certificate...
this is a glimpse of a girl's proposal that often happens and the culture in our area before the marriage contract takes place. Thank you to all my friends for your support for me.
Indonesia, March 3, 2025
Greetings @amre
What do you mean by "black girl" where is that black girl you talk about and how white are you?
Sorry I say this, but I find it ridiculous to say that parents should be grateful if some guy wants to marry their daughter. Daughters are not a burden and girls and women should be treated like a queen not like slaves who should clean and keep the household running.
I have 4 daughters, but no way I would give them to the first idiot knocking at my door he better has a lot to offer and treat my child more than good. No way I will let my child marry with a narcissist, a child abuser, violent man or lazy arse. They are better off single.
I truly hope that what you wrote is a wrong translation because it sounds like racism and it's humiliating. Can be not in your country or family but it is for others who read this.
My tip is to speak for yourself and say: I would be happy if a guy wants to marry my daughter because she is a burden to me (since that is what I read here).
It's painful and harmful to say this.
Hashtag abuse! You are not in a club. You are not allowed to use
#club100Remove the hashtag~!sorry maybe there is a mistake in writing, maybe different regions also have different understandings, about a girl who is already an adult, but has not found her partner, in general parents love their daughters very much, but if they have not found a partner, parents will feel anxious, what's more with free association that is likely to result in the birth of a child before marriage, a disgrace for our place. so be grateful if there is already a life partner, of course parents will also choose a young man who proposes to their daughter with the conditions, religious, good morals, it is impossible to accept a proposal from a young man who is an idiot, lazy, and has bad morals,
It is good to hear that parents go for someone with morals but can this be measured? Does it happen often that girls not married early get pregnant? To me life is life and if it's a gift the only one to blame is the guy who didn't kept his pants closed and not matter what I would find him but on the other hand no way I would force a marriage because lousy bastards will never be a great partner or father.
This reminds me of a region in the Netherlands where it was normal (they were religious) to only get married if the girl was pregnant so the guy was sure (and she too) that they wouldn't remain without children.
Of course, the woman was blamed even if she got pregnant from someone else because the man was the reason.
How about the black girls your wrote about? What does black stand for?
Thanks for replying
Currently we cannot possibly marry our children by force, of course if our children also like it, we cannot measure what will happen after marriage, but at least there is a young man, understands religion, has a job (wants to try) even though he is not rich, different in our area, must be married first before being able to live together, it is strictly forbidden to have sex if not married, children out of wedlock are a very shameful disgrace in our area, whether there are descendants or not after marriage, everything is a gift from the creator that we must accept, about this black girl I apologize there is no bad intention, just a mistake in writing,
so what happens with those unwanted children? The society treats them like dirt for the rest of their lives?
You know what I find interesting? That Jesus is a bastard. His parents weren't married. I also wonder if god doesn't care why humans make this difference