Children - the true conservatives

Children like it manageable, constant conditions give them security. Many a child insists so much that nothing changes, that it seems downright stuffy. This behavior has a good reason.

For a happy development, children generally need three cornerstones: the feeling of being liked, their own freedom as scope for development, and the certainty that people and situations are reliable and predictable. Unfortunately, the last condition is often not given today. The consequence of this can be general disorientation. Later, it is often difficult to recognize authority and boundaries.

Rituals as islands of permanence

Children love and need rituals, in most cases they even insist on it. Recurring procedures, such as bedtime, are the best example of how much peace and quiet a child can achieve. In fact, children in all their activities and throughout the daily routine like the ritual - ie repetitive - character. The certainty that situations and timelines are reliably the same or similar allows children to focus on learning and discovery, knowing that things that are "unobserved" are not getting out of hand. If this aspect is missing in the life of a child, it is constantly insecure and always in wait, what will probably happen next as the unforeseen. This leads to permanent tension and insecurity and above all disturbs the mental and emotional development.

Stable and strong parents - essential for happy children

Children want strong parents and thus the certainty that they can rely on them. A lax education and too much freedom of decision for the child, as it often takes place in education, educate not a free mind, but an insecure and not very decisive people. Children can not judge what is good or bad for them - of course they have to make their own mistakes, but in a protected framework, in which they can understand and understand their own mistakes, because only in this way creates a learning and development effect.

Conservative and aggressive - When children take matters into their own hands

Children demand strength and consistency from their parents, again and again. It often seems to us to be aggressive or naughty, or overly conservative, as our children behave. In reality, they are literally "begging" for the boundaries they need but not receiving from their parents. So they are driving it more and more colorful, in the hope, finally to the limiting point, to come to the stop. Some children also go the other way and present themselves as infants extremely conservative: There must never be chosen another way to kindergarten and woe, it lacks a sentence in the well-known bedtime story. The path taken by a child can vary, the message to the parents always remains the same: give me support and security, be strong and reliable. It is crucial that the parents also understand the message and feel unaffected by the behavior or the utterances of the child. Rather, they should be perceived as a need.

Change is good too - this is how children learn to deal with it

Children who have experienced the stability of parents and life from an early age will eventually come to the conclusion that it can be fun to try something new. Until they are ready, parents should accept the situation and, as far as possible, take into account the child's need for security and his conservative attitude. Most of the greater spiritual freedom develops with the spiritual horizon. The children are getting to know each other more and more and more and more of them are seizing the opportunities that life offers. When it's time for them to be ready for experimentation and change, it's time for parents to let go - always with the message that the child will get help and safety from parents in the event of defeat or error.

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