Reflecting on being successful in carving out life

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A ship captain always does introspection or evaluation, to ensure that every crew member works to do his job properly, because without evaluation, the crew's mistakes can cause the ship to sink. / Illustration shutterstock

Self-introspection is very important

Self-introspection or self-evaluation, can also be said as a step to reflect themselves, self-conduct and examine, maybe there are things that need to be addressed in our behavior and attitudes in making a decision, especially decisions concerning the problems of our lives and the lives of others,

Like a sailing ship, the ship's captain needs to always do an evaluation and not just trust the crew, because if one gives trust, then because of a small mistake, it can cause the ship to sink. In this life, we are the captains of our lives.

Self introspection is important. Because by doing self-introspection, we will understand what mistakes we have made. Whether intentional or not. Self-introspection also trains our mental attitude, so we don't quickly draw conclusions that other people are not good.

Crime occurs not only because of malicious intentions, but not infrequently the crime actually occurs because of being provoked on the opportunity presented. It may be that at first, the offender has absolutely no evil intentions. But, because without realizing it, we have given him the opportunity, then at that moment his evil intentions are carried out.

Unrealistic Belief

Trusting is certainly very good, because this is the foundation for:

cooperate
friendship
But excessive trust or excessive, can change form, become a boomerang and a disaster for ourselves. Because it has provided opportunities and opportunities that are so great, so that people who were good friends, adopted children, people who have been helped, then turned into traitors in our lives.

So our initial intentions are good, but because they are too over in giving trust, the people we trust are tempted. From the beginning they had no intention of committing a crime, but because all opportunities were wide open, the temptation came, and not everyone was able to refrain from being caught in temptation.

So if a crime occurs, actually, the cause is ourselves, because unconsciously, we have pushed him to commit a crime,

A living example:

When I was an Entrepreneur, because I empathized with a young orphan, we gave him a job. Then increasing trust gives us over time and we consider it as our own child. Just name it. Udin, free to enter our house, like his parents' house.

Even given full trust:

Hold a warehouse key
Receive incoming goods
Publish Bon Warehouse
It wasn't until a year later, it turned out that Udin, a young man who was very polite, was kind and diligent at work, embezzled belongings in the warehouse and fled.

Of course this was a blow to us., Very disappointed, because the person who was lunted, helped, given a job, even considered as a family member himself, was able to do that. . Besides that, material losses are not small, as a result of the crime he committed,

Open the Secret of the Kitchen

So close to friendship, then we become careless, so it tells all things, including the secret of the kitchen of our business. As a result, the figure who was our best friend was tempted to commit a crime, because all the data and secrets of our company kitchen were in his hands. And what has been given is precisely our own, because it is lulled by the sweetness of friendship and a sense of kinship, then there is a crime, which should not happen, if we are not careless in giving up everything, including the secrets of our company.

Even the closest person can be tempted

What can be entangled by trust that overdoses from us is not just someone else, but can be our own relative. Lending land certificates or pawning salary slips, with a view to helping our distressed relatives, There is no correspondence, because it is very confident, that he might not betray the trust given, But apparently, what we consider: "impossible" and even then it happened.

As a result we lose twice:

Financial in large quantities
Missing one from relatives and friends
Self-evaluation or self-introspection is much better, than cursing and indulging in curses against people who have hurt and betrayed us. Whatever the name goes too far, it always ends up not being good, not even rare to bring disaster in our lives. Therefore, it would be better to prevent it from regretting.

Giving confidence:

there must be a limit
accountability
there is a dose
periodic control
Hopefully this article will be of benefit to many people, so as not to neglect us, open up opportunities and opportunities, so that it becomes a temptation for others, which may not have bad intentions for us at first. someone else's life.