Yesterday I chatted with a good friend. Forget it, I found that we have known each other for ten years. Suddenly, I felt very emotional. There can be several years in life. People around me come and go. There is such a person for ten years. It's really not easy to be with you every day.

I found that when we are thirty years old, it is easy for people to have a lot of emotions. I don't know if this age brings us more thinking, or we have become mature.

In fact, occasionally I will miss my twenty-year-old days. At that time, I thought very little and knew silly joy every day. Many things can make me feel happy. But now, I have become sensible, mature, and transparent, but it is difficult to have the unbridled happiness at that time.

But this is life, isn't it? In recent years, there have been more and more travel dramas. Many people have traveled back to their own past to complete some unfinished things. This tells us that no one can really stop the pace of time. We must move forward step by step like this. go.

Of course, you don't have to be afraid. Although growing up is a bit lonely, it is by no means a bad thing. We can not take the detours we have taken, and we can avoid the losses we have suffered. There are still many good things in life that are waiting for us to experience.

If you ask me what detour I have taken, then I can tell you ten things I wanted to understand when I was 30 years old. I hope all the sisters can understand that life is not complicated, but happiness is really simple.

Marriage and childbirth are not necessary options in life ‍

The first thing I want to say for a 30-year-old is about marriage and childbirth, because this is something that every girl has to face at this stage from 20 to 30 years old.

What I said must not mean that you must get married and have children, but that no matter whether you plan to get married or have children, someone will keep mentioning this to you.

For example, the sisters around me who got married in their early 20s will be urged to give birth to a child, and if they give birth to one, they will be urged to have a second child. And those sisters who have not been married will be urged on blind dates, urged to marry, and then continue to urge to have children.

I understand what my family thinks, and I always feel that girls at any age have to set foot on what point, otherwise they will lose a lot. Is that really the case?

Many girls who have never been married live a happy life, have their own business, have a good income, travel every year, have time to study, and have a very happy little life.

And some will just marry girls, lose themselves, be tortured by this marriage and the person who doesn't love very much, and suffer every day.

Through them, we can see that we will not be happy if we get married, nor will we be unhappy if we don’t get married. What we need to do is to know what we want, and then choose rationally and calmly instead of just being unhappy. , Don't compromise, don't embarrass yourself.

Of course, I know this sentence is easy to say, difficult to do, and it is not easy to resist the pressure of the world, but no matter what, I don't agree with girls who just give up their lives.

Life is really hard. Meeting the right person gives you the impulse and confidence to get married before you get married. You can have children when you feel that you must have a child, so that you can face the hardships of life. There is no regrets and no regrets, instead of being stuck in regret and entanglement for a lifetime.

Slowly you will find that many things that make you entangled are actually not important at all.

I am a person who likes to reflect. Every time I stop and think about what all the things I have experienced have brought me, and whether the things that make me happy and painful are worth it.

It is strange to say that whenever I think of the things that make me painful and entangled, I always feel that it is nothing more than that, and I can't remember why I was so painful at the time.

In fact, this is the nature of human beings. When the person involved is confused, many things can't be understood or let go, but when you become a bystander, you will find that everything else in this world is trivial except life and death.

Of course, I’m not saying that we should be completely indifferent when we experience pain. No one can do it. I just want to tell you and tell myself that there is not much in this world that is worth our pain and entanglement. Things, many times, time will really heal everything and take away a lot of things.

No matter how difficult or bitter the things you are going through now, they will definitely pass, as long as you persevere. Don't feel that you are abandoned by the world just because one person leaves, let alone punish yourself for the fault of others. This is really not worth it.

Live your own life and enjoy the beauty of the moment, and you will have more happiness.

Love is love, enjoy it with heart‍

I am especially envious of those who can devote themselves to it as long as they love, and enjoy it with heart, because love is really a beautiful thing, and it shouldn't be mixed with too many selfish thoughts.

The reason why too many people fall in love is because they need to find a suitable person to marry. This need cannot be said to be wrong, but it will really destroy the beauty of love itself, and it will blind your eyes and make you unable to see the good of each other. And bad is judged only because of the external matter.

I hope everyone can be together because they like it when they first fall in love. The transition from ambiguous to sweet. If you don’t experience it well, you will regret it later, and these will also make you in the long years. Think of it at any time, aftertaste, and be happy forever.

Then, I hope that you can spend a longer time in love, that is, to feel the beauty and happiness of two people together, and do all the things that couples should do. Please remember that there will be decades of life like a husband and wife, but the life of getting along like a lover may only last a few years. You must cherish it, even if you often quarrel.

When your relationship has really sublimated to the point that you have to sign a lifetime agreement with each other, then talk about the future and marriage, and then touch those real things. Of course, before that, you need to make sure that the character of the person is correct in the process of getting along, and you have also checked his native family and circle of friends and so on.

When you have made these preparations, go to get married, because in this way, you can feel in love lasting longer, instead of facing the blow of reality from the beginning of being together.

Maybe you think this state is ideal, but there are many people around me, including myself, who have had this experience. I think this is not difficult, as long as you are willing.