HANDLING EXCESS OF IN-LAWS IN MARRIAGE

WORDS OF THE DAY

Don't allow in your house anyone that will bring you pain or anyone that is not ready to serve God with you.

Its rather unfortunate that many IN-LAWS have turned themselves to out-laws. It is very disheartening witnessing and hearing cases of IN-LAWS that are more or less thorns in the life of their children and sons or daughters IN-LAWS.

To all parents, I will like to advice: don't do anything that will affect the home of your son's or daughters negatively. There is nothing wrong in advising them where necessary, but please never try to rule their home for them. Things change every day and so don't expect them to see things or handle issues the way you handled them in your own time. More than anything, what they need from you is your prayers.

TO ALL COUPLES, I ADVISE:-

1. Honour and take good care of your parents.

2. As much as possible, be fair with the way you treat both sides, I.e your own parents and your spouse's parents.

1. Irrespective of who is earning the highest income between you and your couple, endeavour to take care of both families to the best of your ability and within your means.
2. As couple, deliberate on everything- what you want to give, what social functions s to attend, who to welcome in your house, how to treat a particular family member etc, and agree on a common position.
3. Don't allow IN-LAWS to sow seed of disagreement between you and your partner.
4. You don't need to incure unreasonable debt only because you want to please some IN-LAWS and family members.
5. Men in particular should exercise godly authority and defend their wives from IN-LAWS attack. Don't allow your parents or family members to become a source of worry, anxiety, fear, weeping etc to your wife. The same goes to the wife, even though in most cases, it is men that should stand up to their responsibility as the head of the family.
6. Don't allow in your house anyone that will bring upon you pain or anyone that is not ready to serve God with you. There should be no sentiment about this. There are people that you don't need to bring into your house before you can help them. You can always help them from afar. Give them whatever you want to give them and let them stay away from your house or home. Keep your home and protect your destiny.
7. Don't divulge any information to any family member or IN-LAWS that can be used against your spouse on one hand or your destiny and children on the other hand.

Thank you for stopping by, God bless you