THINGS THAT WILL KEEP YOUR LOVE STRONG (CONTINUES)

Happy wonderful and lovely sunday to you all steemchurch parishioners, its been wonderful and awesome. Welcome to that time again where i reveals those secrets that keeps love stronger as a couple. In my previous posts, i have revealed some of the secrets and will continue from there on this post. This secrets are very useful for couples and intending couples, it is also useful to those single that intend to go into marriage. So relax and get the message.

SECRETS OF A LASTING RELATIONSHIP

1. FIND TIME TOGETHER ALONE TO DISCUSS AND SHARE

As people grow in marriage, there is tendency not to have enough time for one another again. Most times, care for children, business, jobs, in-laws, church activities, ceremonies etc. Take so much time that couples hardly find time to be alone together. As much as some of these aforementioned engagement are important, couples should still find time to be alone together. It is the success of your relationship that will eventually determine the success of other things. There is no wisdom being nice to everybody else except your partner.

What happened between Isaac and Rebekah in Genesis 24:63-67, shows the importance of couples having private time together;

63 One evening as he was walking and meditating in the fields, he looked up and saw the camels coming. 64 When Rebekah looked up and saw Isaac, she quickly dismounted from her camel. 65 “Who is that man walking through the fields to meet us?” she asked the servant.
And he replied, “It is my master.” So Rebekah covered her face with her veil. 66 Then the servant told Isaac everything he had done.
67 And Isaac brought Rebekah into his mother Sarah’s tent, and she became his wife. He loved her deeply, and she was a special comfort to him after the death of his mother

From today, I receive grace for couples to be a source of comfort to one another in the name of Jesus.

1. RESPECT EACH OTHER
   Respect, people say, begets respect. Couple should respect each other. There is no one that does not love to be respected. Don't take your partner for granted. The fact that he or she is quiet or gentle should not be taken for granted. Endeavour to do to others what you want them do to you. (Matt. 7:12)

In Ephesians 5:33, Apostle Paul admonished

So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

The love should be on both side and respect also should be on both sides even though women are expected to show more reverence for their husbands.

Respect for your partner is not a sign of weakness. Never! Instead, it is an evidence of maturity. Don't allow people to teach you negative traits of unbelievers. Some people are of the opinion that when you respect your partner too much he or she would look down on you. I beg to disagree. That will only happen if that partner is not a child of God.

Pride is one of the major reason many people find it difficult to respect their partners. Don't ever forget that God hates pride. In Proverb 3:34 and James 4:6 the Bible tells us that God resist the proud, but gives grace to the humble. We must all do away with pride.

1. SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS TOGETHER
   There is no doubt that there will be times when there are issues that must be resolved. At such times, I want to advice couples to take note of the following:

2. Established what the problem is first.

3. Find out the possible cause of the problem

4. Be slow to react until you have found out the true and complete picture of what happened.

5. Endeavour to be calm.

6. Act maturely

7. Your goal should be how to provide solutio to the problem at hand.

8. Don't say anything that will aggravate the problem at hand.

9. Show understanding always.

10. Always embrace dialogue.

11. Make room for each other's faults

12. Be quick to apologize if you are the one that is wrong.

13. Be magnanimous in accepting your partner's apology.

14. Avoid nagging.

15. Never exchange words before your kids or outsiders.

16. Never go to bed without resolving pending issues.

17. As couples, avoid repetition of past mistakes.

18. No matter the problem in the relationship, pray to God about it.

Isaac demonstrated maturity when he took up the issue of his wife's barrenness before God. That is how to solve problem. Isaac and his wife were not blaming one another for their inability to have children. Rather, they took up the challenge in prayer.

And Isaac intreated the Lord or his wife, because she was barren: and the Lord was intreated of him, and rebekah his wife conceived. Genesis 25:21.

God bless you. The series continues