Talk about morality with people who betray feelings
You must have said many things and done many things in the face of people who betrayed their feelings. Among them, the most outrageous thing is to talk about morality with the betrayers.
"It is immoral for you to do this!"
When you face the betrayer and say this sentence, you can prove two at most. First, you are stupid; second, you are stupid.
Many emotional betrayers, after betraying their feelings, will say to those who "accuse" them: Don't kidnap me with morals! Don't criticize me on the commanding heights of morality! Anxious, I will tell you: You are a moral biao!
Look, if you don't talk about morality, you are just and confident; if you talk about morality, you have become a respectable person.
Things are gathered together, and people are divided into groups; it is difficult for a moral person to understand a moral person; a non-ethical person, of course, cannot understand a moral person.
They will never understand that people who speak morality have faith and respect for morality; they will never understand that morality weighs more than a thousand pounds with moral people. In the eyes of the betrayer, moral fart is not worthless.
This is the difference of ideas. If the three views are different, it is impossible to communicate. This is the case with emotional marriage.
Morality is not to be shown to others, morality is a kind of self-cultivation.
Therefore, moral people are usually more self-disciplined, restrained in their behavior, will not indulge their desires, and will not do things that are "retributed" in the simple concept-they are not afraid of real retribution. , Who really believes that stuff?
They are just to give themselves an explanation, that is, the unity of body and mind. I want to be such a person, so my behavior meets my standards of life.
On the other hand, it is a betrayer who looks good, because in the eyes of outsiders, they are usually good husbands (wives) and good fathers (mothers)-it is not difficult to understand that they must pay attention to their personal settings in the outside world, but, In the relatively hidden space of marriage and family, what they reveal is their true side.
To a certain extent, morality is really worthless, and morality cannot get anything concrete; on the contrary, when you don’t speak morality, you may get more. Those who betray feelings are precisely because they don’t speak morality. Only then can you "have the opportunity" to try the freshness, passion and joy outside marriage...
Therefore, when facing emotional betrayal, you really don’t just look at this specific behavior, but through these behaviors to look at the other’s qualities, such as selfishness, ignorance of gratitude, lack of awe, and so on.
Don't talk to the betrayer about moral issues. Morality is to tie up the immortal rope, and betrayal proves that he is not a god. No matter how strong the morality is, it will be the same for him.
Then, in the world of emotions, you will find that people who speak morality suffer more, and people who do not speak morality are more at ease-it has always been, and always will be.
And need to give you a more realistic conclusion:
You can't let yourself become immoral by letting yourself fall; let alone you can't make an immoral person truly abiding by virtue.
What an amazing article @charlesz.
Your writing skills is really extraordinary ❤️.