Four(4) things that will make your relationship work (Part 1)

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In a world where no one can survive alone, in a world where one of the basic needs of everyone is love, relationship is inevitable.

There are different kinds and forms of relationship which i will be exposing in subsequent post, but in this post tonight I will be talking about love relationship. This includes boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, husband-wife relationship.
If there is anything any young man or woman is afraid of, it is having a relationship or marriage that won't work out. Nevertheless, these fears and extreme carefulness on relationship has not really yielded so much result because till this minute, we still have alot of people's relationship or marriage collapsing. It may sound so proud but if you understand what I'm about to expose to you in this post, you'll find out that your relationship will rise above the gravitational force that lands other on the floor of failure.

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Are we set?

Ok, there are four things every relationship that must work should have, know and understand.
Inotherwords, there are four tributaries of a relationship. Any relationship lacking any one of them will eventually collapse.

1. Commitment

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I know you think its a simple thing and you already know it but trust me by the time you must have read through this article to understand, you'll realize that just maybe this is the singular reason your relationship never worked.

What is commitment?
According to the oxford dictionary, commitment is
1 the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.
2 an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.

Let's look at the definitions critically.
The first says a state of being dedicated to a cause or activity.

When you're in a relationship, you need to know that there are activities, things in the relationship that should not be subject to emotions. If you've decided to love her, if you've decided and promised to take care of her, I want you to know that's its not everytime you'll feel like doing that. Sometimes, your partner will annoy you so much that you're tempted to break that promise, ignore your commitement to your partner but that's where men are saperated from boys. Boys will act as their emotions direct but men will know that commitment is not subject to emotions.

For example, you have a culture of dropping your partner off to work on daily basis and this morning he or she has insulted and made you annoyed, what's the next thing that comes to mind? leave him or her and go to work, but come to think of it, that anger will only last for a moment, but the relationship is meant to last forever, what if something bad happens to your partner that morning you couldn't drop her off ? You'll recover from your anger to face the reality and by then something has gone wrong.

You can still be angry and keep to your promise, you can still be annoyed and love at same time. Commitment says I won't allow NOW spoil forever, emotions says act NOW, there is no forever. This is the reason men hit their wives, this is the reason women cheat on their partner.

If only we can understand that COMMITMENT is the first and very sensitive part of our relationship then we will have a very long lasting one.

Let's proceed to the second definition,
an engagement or obligation that restricts freedom of action.

Sighs, this may sound stupid and naughty but it's true, a major part of commitment is the part that restricts you from doing somethings because of your partner.

The major problem young people have today is that they can't wait to be in a relationship or get married but when they eventually get into one, they still want to live their lives as they used to before engaging in the relationship, please listen to me, NO RELATIONSHIP WORKS THAT WAY! If you're committed to someone in a relationship, you'll need to adjust your life a bit to suit your partner you have to restrict some part of your life. If there are characters your partner do not enjoy, you have to work on them. Relationship is responsibility and it's meant for responsible people and one of the marks of being responsible is the ability to constrain oneself to suit another.

Just alot more to say on this but I guess you already got something tangible about commitment. In my next post, I will be talking about the next thing your relationship must have and you need to understand for your relationship to work.

Thanks to:
@talktofaith
@steemcurator01
@steemcurator02
@orion7
@marchrain