How to cultivate confident children
Self confidence can be regarded as the foundation of children's future foothold in society. Cultivating self-confidence and self-esteem is an important content related to children's life. Recently, a number of American parenting experts summed up 10 tips to help cultivate children's self-confidence.
1.Parents set an example. A new study from the University of Washington shows that children's self-esteem has been established around the age of five, and one of the best ways to help children build self-confidence and self-esteem is for parents to set an example. New Jersey parenting expert Dr Leslie deviro said that teaching by example is better than teaching by words, and children will imitate this behavior when they see their parents are confident.
2.Focus on the uniqueness. Dr. S. Renee Smith, a child care expert in Dover, Delaware, said that parents should discover and accept the uniqueness of their children, understand their communication styles and needs, and then develop their self-confidence by communicating with them through selective words and tone.
3.Moderate praise. All children want to be praised by their parents, which plays a vital role in their self-esteem. But excessive praise and empty praise will inevitably lead to children's unreasonable expectations, lack of security and feeling conceited. A study from Ohio State University found that children who were overestimated by their parents as children are more likely to have narcissistic problems in the future. Therefore, praise should be in line with reality.
4.Help turn "danger" into "opportunity". If parents can help their children see the bright side of things and let them know how to deal with rejection or negative experiences, their children's self-confidence will be improved. Dr. deviro said that with the correct guidance of parents, children are more confident to overcome difficulties and forge ahead in the face of adversity.
5.Let the experience fail. If a parent has to help his child with everything, he will never know how to deal with failure. The right way is to tell children that frustration is normal, and the key is how to learn from it. Parents can also share their frustrations with their children.
6.Cultivate team spirit. According to Dr. Smith, one of the best ways to improve children's self-confidence and self-esteem is to cultivate their team spirit. Even if a child scores the winning goal, he should be made to understand that he cannot succeed without the cooperation of other members of the team.
7.Correct mistakes in time. When a child makes a mistake, parents must cheer him up and try again. At the same time, let him understand that his behavior is wrong.
8.Encourage the pursuit of dreams. Parents should look for opportunities to help their children discover their talents, enhance their self-confidence, and understand that as long as they work hard, their dreams can be realized. Dr. deviro said that children should be allowed to pursue their dreams and understand that the only failure is never trying hard.
9.Cultivate the habit of affirmation. It is very important to cultivate children's consciousness of "self affirmation". We might as well write down the words of encouragement or encouragement to him in the process of reading. These "positive" habits help children understand that there is room for improvement in their abilities.
10 .Help them look to the future. Dr. Smith said a positive attitude towards the future would also boost confidence. Parents should always give their children positive reminders, such as, "your leadership skills will help change the world!" "Your artistic ability can beautify life!" In addition, educating children to help others can effectively improve their self-confidence.