I suffer from compulsive altruism. I feel compelled to help others. I know I'm not gaining anything from it except the slightest reduction in guilt. But even then I admit that this isn't complete, disinterested selflessness.
I suffer from compulsive altruism. I feel compelled to help others. I know I'm not gaining anything from it except the slightest reduction in guilt. But even then I admit that this isn't complete, disinterested selflessness.
Upvote my post then. I have compulsive receiver of altruism.
I am also addicted to altruism, but it is not good for me, so I am trying to be more selfish. Trying to help the group or tribe is only harming me. I think many people are finding nowadays that altruism leads nowhere except exploitation, so they are becoming selfish in response. This can explain the explosive growth of the MGTOW and WGTOW movements.
One needs to keep in mind that it is individuals that need help, not agreements between people, which is what groups are.
Also, maintain boundaries, and you will be harder to exploit.
Even the most cynical asshole can be exploited, by using their selfishness against them. 'The Sting' starring Paul Newman showed exactly how this can be done. Being good to folks doesn't make you an easy target, as long as you never lend what you can't part with, and maintain good sense.
You do. You feel good. Consider hormones and neurotransmitters like drugs and your act as payment.