Anger management: Few tips to control your temper.

Keeping your temper in check can be challenging.
Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is normal — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger(temper) can take a toll on both your health and your relationship

• Think twice before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it's easy to utter somethings you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything . courtesy Google image

• Be calm before you express your anger

As soon as you're calm and thinking straight, express your frustration in an assertive but non confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them. courtesy Google image

• Exercise

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Physical activities like yoga,talking a walk,even sleeping calms the mind and helps reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating spend some time doing enjoyable physical activities.

• Take a break or timeout
  
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Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful.Either you watch a movie or spend time with spouse or even have sex(some research has proven that sex reduces stress) A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.

• Identify possible solutions

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Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand
Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse. courtesy Google image

• Stick with 'I' statement
  To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes" instead of "You never do any housework."

• Don't hold a grudge
  
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Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation and strengthen your relationship.

• Use humor to release tension

Lightening up can help diffuse tension. I sometimes go out and laugh out loud and say to my self (Am MAD) Don't get me wrong i actually mean Am MAKING A DIFFERENCE(MAD) Use humor to help you face what's making you angry and, possibly, any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Smile or rather laugh out .Avoid sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.

• Practice relaxation skills

When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation. courtesy Google image

• Know when to seek help

Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Seek help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you.