Why Some Relationships Fail
We all know that relationship begins with romance, filled with butterflies and hope for exciting future with one another.
But we fail to understand what it truly means to be in a relationship.
Let me break it down with my experience
I went on a date with a friend who i barely knew and the date was the best i had so far.
I would daydream of how the date went and how he treated me.
Our conversation were based on what went down that night and I never gave it a thought about the future.
We talked on phone everyday -in fact no day passes without a call or text.
I would smile on seeing his call or text and yeah act stupid which everyone around noticed.
Then our problem started, our calls became limited, our chats pattern change. Everything wasn't like it used to be. Not like he stopped calling but it wasn't like before. I apologized for things I knew nothing about and put blames on my self.
I failed to understand what adaptations in relationships were. I didn't focus on the future but just the present.
I only saw the sweet sides of a relationship and I never pictured the obstacles that came with it.
For me adaptations are there for us to survive,they happen so we could understand that things won't always be like they used to be.
And if we kept on hanging only on the present then we don't have a potential for a future.
Yeah change is constant in human, and because of that change our relationship either grows or falls apart.
There's no calculations or scientific formulas to figure out how a honeymoon will last so
it's very important to pay attention to how you feel about your relationship once it starts to die down.
It's great to be passionate about one another but it shouldn't be a foundation you build your life on.
An ideal relationships are work in progress, they have issues and obstacles that they try to overcome together.
So try not to focus on what is happening now but also focus on what will be in the end.
Relationship is all about understanding.
Thanks for reading.
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@emem i love this
I think the basic of an relationship is understanding
Loving someone is more of a choice than a feeling because when the feeling is diminishing and when reality begins to set in, it is that decision to be with each other that will persist. That is why you can see people be in relationships for four years or more talk more of the married ones. Occasionally there are those things that rekindle the feelings but in all honesty, making a decision to stay with someone through thick and thin is the reason relationships last longer not necessarily the feeling