RELATIONSHIP 101- COMPARISON: AN ENEMY BEHIND THE SCENE BY @EXCEPTIONAL20

"what is man, that thou art mindful of him?, and the son of man, that thou visitest him?" Psalm 8:4

The angels could not understand why God will leave the terrains of Glory, the worship of His Majesty, and the splendour of His kingdom only to visit man. It is called Relationship.

Even God is obsessed about relationship. How do I know?

Even God desires and loves relationship. Despite the fall of man in the garden of Eden, He looked for a way to regain His relationship with man. Which He gain through the death, burial and resurrection of Christ. Glory!

So, relationship is a key factor in man's existence and such can marr or build a man.

But let me streamline my discuss to the marital relationship or the relationship leading into marriage.

I have seen a profound situation that leads to breakups amongst young people. The enemy bedeviling the most relationship is "Comparison"

A consideration or estimate of the similarities or dissimilarities between two things or people.

A lot of persons have ended a relationship that was divinely orchestrated because they began to draw consideration of similarities and differences of their past relationship and the present.

And when they feel the present relationship doesn't meet up with what the past offers, they begin to long for the past at the detriment of the present relationship.

But they fail to understand that everyone is unique in their special way. No mortal man is perfect, that is the reason change remains the constant thing.

It is so sad that in the body of Christ this act is obtainable. The church ought to be a place where truth is taught and where the world can learn from.

It is written in 2 Corinthians 10:12 "For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they, measuring themselves by themselves and comparing themselves among themselves are not wise"

It is foolishness to compare ourselves with others, or to compare someone with another. It is not an act of a believer. Yes we have different temperament and for you to enjoy your relationship, you must choose wisely, spiritually and intelligently one that suits your personality, then grow in accomodating their excesses.

Let me pulse and ask you a question. "Can you marry you? What I mean to ask is, can you marry your kind of person? With the same bad and good character and lifestyle? I sure can't.

So you see why it is then wrong to compare the person we are in a relationship with our Ex. If most of our Ex are that good enough, why then do we leave them?

In summary, Love is not comparative. Love, loves for whom a person is, not comparing them with others.

God is much interested in our relationship as much as He is interested in our Spiritual life and walk with Him. Only if you will appreciate the person you are in a relationship with, cherish them and threat them as gold, then you will begin to see the beautiful aspect of their life you have never seen.

Show them love, cherish and appreciate their time, support and care. Always tell them how important they are to you and tell them how impactful they have been in your life. You will literally see the best part emerging to make the relationship work.

Stop the blame game and stop the comparison game so as to experience a heaven on earth relationship with your spouse if you are married and your fiance/fiancee if you are single ready to be married.