life coaching 5 - Another inside of me

Most people do not live a life that matches their beliefs and actions. It sounds easy, but it's hard to act like that. Why?

If you think easily, there is another resistance 'I'. We think that the existence of one 'I' presides over all these thoughts and actions. But we need to look at this from a slightly different perspective. I think there are a lot of 'me' in me. And then you can think that 'I', the role you need at that time, appears on the outside.

My appearance now is manifested in countless possibilities, potentials, and choices. In this way, the frequently appearing "I" is unconsciously determined, and it is not easy to suddenly bring the unfamiliar me to the stage. It is awkward and uncomfortable to play a new role while playing a familiar role.

If so, there will be a 'me' that often appears depending on a specific place, person, organization, or situation.

Someone may be in a negative mode when they are with the family, disrespecting and complaining. Families are often more important and often have childhood memories that do not have the power to change things. It is not easy to turn around because you judge yourself that there is no answer.

Therefore, it becomes sensitive to the occurrence of conflict with family. After all, if you go into your house, there will be some people who want to be alone in the room, hoping that nothing will happen.

When you are with a friend, you are a joke. But the company may be staring at the monitor because I do not want to talk. Whatever it is, we set me on the grounds that it is best suited for my survival and breeding.

Take a look at the 'me' that you do not like yourself. Please try it. I do not want to be that kind of thing, but I think it can be that you look like you do not like it. It may be you who are guilty. You might be trying to run.

And think seriously about why you do it. There is a reason for acting in any role. It is to look at what is my own gain from doing so. It is the first time to see what makes me rationalize it. It is 'my motive'. Indeed, I am trying to figure out what logic is cheating on me.

It has nothing to do with whether it is reasonable. Just two steps to the question "Why?" Write down what you want to avoid. Most of them will have very unreasonable reasons. And I can also see that the benefits of such actions are not greater than I thought.