I admire you for taking the decision to walk this path pro-actively. Wonder what prompted you to start to think this way. I had a major event (mental crash) in my life trying to live up to other's expectation of me. The crash and subsequent recovery is what taught me to look deeper, and start step by step down the road of introspection and letting go of the need for acceptance. I see so many people struggling with depression and anxiety, worrying about what others think of them, and trying to mold their life to satisfy others. Trying to teach my children this, and seeing the influence that's embedded in the kids social media networks.
They are so fearful to be themselves, and push back against the popular bullies, due to fear of retribution on social media. Thanks for starting this thread, look forward to any more inspiration that you may be able to share on your journey. Its not easy as you say, but inner peace (the select moments when one feels it) are so gratifying.