Let’s talk about sex: horny but too lazy/tired
I know it’s important to have regular sex in a relationship, but I’m just tooo Tired. I know this is not only my problem, but a problem more adults have. Raising kids and working just takes its toll. Now it wasn’t only me tonight, even my husband sat on the couch like a lemon. if he just would put the effort in..... No just kidding, it takes two to tango. But why does sex sometimes feel like another task on the list?
the thing is, just like sports, sometimes it’s hard to just get up and get in the mood. But the only way to overcome it, is to just get in the mood orto plan a night together to go out have dinner and have sex. Yes planning it. We plan so many things in live, why not sex? and the answer that it takes the romance away is bullshit. When we used to date, and planned to go on a date it was also exciting, even though you knew you would have dinner together. Even planning an evening to have a bath or shower together works. And you might be tired, but sex releases endorfines and serotonin, which make you active and happy.
Mans afterwards you sleep Devine!
I wish you all all great sex this weekend, and plan a night out with your partner.
I feel the same way. It does feel like a task at times, albeit one of my favorite tasks to do in the world.
I work 40+ hours a week, always busy with Steem, and love to enjoy life in other ways besides just sex.
Lucky for me, my girlfriend does a great job of keeping me interested.. It is a daily thing for us, no matter how tired we are, we always seem to wake up and feel great once the sexual act is stdryed.
There are the few days a week where I have extra energy or a day off & can be the origin of sexual power. Those of course are her favorite times.
I have found for the man, the best thing to do is take advantage of our morning wood & get in the sexual mood as soon as we wake up.
And then for the woman, it is best to initiate when they want/need it. All it takes is some slight touching and the male dominance will erupt, if the man is MAN enough.
Also, if things have grown stale, perhaps some aspects of bdsm will bring back some of the original sexual sparks.
Wouw I really like how open you are about this. Every day is great, I though about trying this. though mornings isn’t possible for every one. My husband is up and out of the door at 6 am. I get up with him for company. We work both 40 hours a week and have two children. I am already proud of the fact that after 19 years of being together and workin both, we can still get each other interested in sex. I know that lots of woman like being dominated in sex and light bdsm might work for then. Fifty shades of grey I found totally boring. So not for me, but I do not judge it, as long as both parties like it.
My recommendation would be to talk with @steemed-open...
Her and her husband are more similar to your long term situation. I am only 26, so giving advice on a 19 year relationship probably isn’t warranted just yet.
i Think it doesn’t matter if you are 26 or 62. We might evolve, but still can learn from each other. I’ll check her out.
I appreciate that & agree that experience can be gained quicker by different people.
By the way, how can you be busy with steem so much? Intrigued .......
Well let’s see... I post 9 times a day and comment a lot too.
I started in December 2017, and sine then have earned over 5,000 steem power, grew to reputation 71, have almost 2,000 followers.. and feel very accustomed to using Steem. I have dedicated a large portion of my free time to setting myself up for success here. Like many others have done as well.
That is certainly impressive. I can’t devite that much time, but I’m set on once a day posting and interacting, and to buy some steem along the way ....
Once you get in a solid routine, it is easier than it is when you first start being super active like that.
I think as long as you are on here consistently in some way or another you will be successful.
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