Will you attend your ex’s wedding?
Reflecting on the invitation I received, my thoughts inevitably drift to the story of Ariadne and Theseus. Ariadne, who once helped Theseus escape the labyrinths of life and heart, was later abandoned on a deserted island, only to find love and hope again with the god Dionysus. This ancient tale makes me ponder my own story, where, like Ariadne, I was abandoned by someone I believed would lead me out of the labyrinths of my days. Yet, like her, I found a new beginning, a new love with my wife, who is now my everything.
Jealousy is a difficult companion at times, and despite my current happiness, the shadow of the past sometimes lengthens in my wife's thoughts. The invitation to my ex's wedding is a crossroads of emotions: it represents respect for a past that shaped me and the celebration of a future that no longer belongs to me. It is a sign of maturity and closure, a final chapter written with the cordiality of someone who knows they have grown beyond old wounds.
Accepting to attend is not just a gesture of respect towards someone who was important, but also an affirmation of the unbreakable bond I now have with my wife. Explaining this decision to her, however, requires delicacy and understanding, acknowledging her feelings and reassuring her of the irreplaceable place she holds in my life.
The decision to attend, therefore, becomes a bridge between my past and my present, an act of peace with the shadows of what was and a celebration of the love that lives and breathes beside me. In the labyrinth of life, every choice carries the echo of past ones and the promise of future ones, and in this invitation, I see the opportunity to honor both.
Special thanks to @wakeupkitty
Invite: @fadthalib @pousinha @yaladeeds @xiao-aine @eveetim
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Hi @ibbeso
You have a loving soul and a very subtle sense of maintaining a relationship. What about you @wakeupkitty? What gift would you give if you attended your ex-lover's wedding?
Hello! @fadthalib Thank you for your kind words; I'm happy about your compliment.
@fadthalib since my ex wants to marry me it's better to say NO to the invitation before I am forced into a yes without saying the word!
I don't like to be surprised. I doubt he will ever get married. 👋
But hey @ibesso you deserve a present and I think what your wife feels is real.
a ticket to Venice would be perfect 😉
You are in Italy drive or take the train or Flixbus.
I can borrow you the cocoa boat too.
Yesss Cocoa boat! I like it👋
I wonder why you have the steemit logo behind your name if you reply and others have not. 🤔
I'll send you this one, have fun you two
You have more space if you empty the boat in the canals!
I used the #test hashtag when I posted in your beautiful hive. Could it be because of this that the Steemit logo appears, or maybe my romanticism is spreading across the network? Thank you for the sweet thought, I really like it.
No idea. So far it only showed with patjewell and now you. It can't be the hive.
For me, I'll say it depends on how the landing was. If the way we parted didn't end well, then forget. Nicely written, best wishes in the contest.
Although the word ‘forget’ is not among my favorites, it is a wise choice to avoid suffering. I find it very difficult to emotionally detach from the beautiful things I have experienced, even if they had complications, as if only the good memories remain, leaving me with a veil of melancholy. Thank you for your comment.🌈
You separate because the beauty is gone, the love is over or you start annoying another. It's also a sign of respect and love to let go of an ex partner instead of living in the past telling yourself you had such a great time together.
You had not. If so you wouldn't have separated
You sound like my ex. All kind of great memories but in reality we never went out together, he ignored me on the streets and even told people: there will be a lady visiting with a toddler he says dad to me but I am not. Yeah sure.
I was the one telling his parents they have grandchildren.
Your situation might have been different but your truth is not hers so let go and focus on what you have today before you are dumped!
If it comes to memories the brain tricks: we do not remember how it was but remember the last time we remembered the memory we remembered the memory...and so on.
This means the more positive you think and wish the better the memory is. Cool isn't it?
That's why we also suck as a witness after a crime, the longer the trial takes, the more we are questioned the more what we witnessed can change.
I don’t think it’s wrong to keep past memories alive. Is this considered childish? Fine, I like being that way. I agree with you that there is love and respect in ending a relationship that no longer works as it used to; and it is right not to remain anchored to the past. However, I believe that keeping beautiful memories alive is also a gesture of respect towards the love that once made those experiences positive. Despite this, I will try to adopt a more objective perspective to improve this childish aspect of mine.👋🌈
Childish has nothing to do with it. It's also not about having good memories or cherishing them.
It's about not able to let go, not making a new start and go for it. It's about longing for 'the good old time, an old lover'.
You know very well what I mean.
Good night, sleep well.
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I admit that it is the desire to relive happy moments that drives me to keep these memories alive. However, I am aware that it is impossible to exactly relive those moments, as time changes us and often what remains are the less pleasant memories.
This is why I value writing my stories so much: it helps me preserve those experiences that would otherwise fade from my memory and my personality, turning me into what I would fear becoming.
Sometimes, I feel the urge to write to each of them, to find out how they are doing, if they are happy, if I could offer comfort perhaps for mistakes that I only now understand; but then I realize how irrational this thought is and resign myself to living in doubt.
I wish you a good evening
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Write about it and even if you can't figure it out you can give it a voice.
Mistakes...were they mistakes back then. If not these aren't mistakes now just because you have changed.
Give yourself some room to breathe and just be. You know and admit that's enough. Stop living in doubt and stop hurting yourself and others.
If you feel you are not happy or can't be happy with what you have now the only thing you can do is start allover again.
Sweet dreams dear @ibesso
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My encouragement, dear friend. My answers to the theme until now to the million dollars question have been ironic, as my personality is often playful😂. But returning serious, my answer to the question is: it's very dependable. An univocal response is impossible. You have now your beloved wife (I'm happy for you!), but I state it's a very big deal if you are still single and your ex fiancée invites you to his/her wedding.
Ps.: thank you for the invitation, sorry I can't participate as I'm really too busy with my regular publishing, my e-book n.8 and the poor health in my couple...it's many doctors to see
I hope this message finds you well and in the right spirit to continue your audiobook project.
I know how difficult it can be to pursue your goals when obstacles arise, but I am confident that your strong spirit will overcome this moment.
I consider myself lucky and hold no grudges against past loves, even though they have ended; in fact, I am grateful for them.
The happiness I feel today is also thanks to them.
Let’s keep the child in us alive.
Furthermore, I agree that the situation can definitely be more complicated for singles, and frankly, the mere thought of being single scares me a lot.
Thank you, and best wishes for your eighth work.
It's exactly the same by my side: the mere thought of being single-never-married scared me a lot. Probably, it's because I wasn't born for that kind of life, God knows. Now, if it's God's will, into 4 months it's 15 years of marriage (to not counting the previous engagement period).
This reminded me of someone he is late now, he asked that when I get ready to get married I should invite him to my wedding. I told him, I wasn't going to have my wedding in the same state, he said wherever Amina, I will take a flight and attend. In my heart, I said keep dreaming, why on earth will I invite you to my wedding. It won't be comfortable for me cos I might wonder if the ex will act civil or stupid and weddings ain't for maybes, but I can attend theirs if invited cos I am more sane. Now direct question @ibesso you've been married for many years, how does it feel. Strange, good or a little confusing sometimes, if you were to give others important advise, what will it be?
Dear @yaladeeds I fully understand the importance and seriousness of marriage and respect it in all its forms.
Our bond has solidified over more than twenty years of marriage and has been crowned by the birth of our wonderful daughter; unfortunately, things did not go as well with our second child, but that's another story.
You know, overcoming the toughest challenges makes life easier, and when difficulties arise again, you find yourself stronger to face them.
I am someone who finds completeness alongside a woman; it has always been this way, and fortunately, I am doing well.
It is clear that there are ups and downs, as in all areas of life, and if you do not accept this reality, you risk being alone.
One piece of advice I can offer is not to neglect time for fun. Often, children are blamed for taking love away from the couple, but if you can, seek help from grandparents.
It is not true that couples who take evenings just for themselves are bad parents; it is essential to keep the passion alive.
If you do not have anyone who can help you, try to find creative ways to do so.
The important thing is to keep the relationship alive and occasionally rediscover those gestures that made you fall in love.🌈
The decision to attend his wedding depends on what led to our separation and how he treated me. On the other hand, if my ex was so good to me and unfortunately circumstances beyond our control led to our breaking up. I know it won't be easy for me to attend his wedding especially when I am still in love with him. In this situation, it will only be easy for me to attend his wedding "if" I got married before him.😄
What if he changes his mind and finds you already married?
Well, that would be an ironic twist worthy of a movie.
Can you imagine the look on his face when he discovers you’ve moved on?😂
Here’s to a good life and best wishes for the contest 👋
It's a very amazing, fun story that blossomed in your heart, have a good day, hopefully you're always in good health and always successful.
Thank you for stopping by. We try to give our best. Good luck.👋