Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
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Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
What are the top five regrets of the dying and why is knowing these is absolutely essential to have your best happy life today?
The top five regrets of the dying are as follows.
Number one: I wish I had lived the life I truly wanted to.
When you're on your death bed, are you going to care what people thought?
The story of this book, "The Top Five Regrets of the Dying," which I highly recommend you read, was written by an author in Australia who did elderly care.
She saw what people really regretted at the end of their life, and these are lessons that are so helpful for us today to see how we can truly live our best lives and not make all these mistakes and go to our deathbed.
The number one regret of the dying was: "I wish I had lived the way I really wanted to."
The story that came up for this was a woman who wanted to leave her husband, was tired of being with him, but she didn't even though she had this whole life she wanted to live, traveling, experiencing the world, she didn't do it because she didn't want people to think badly of her.
She died never getting to live the life she wanted to and she told the author, "Please live your life. Don't let what people think stop you from experiencing your life."
The second regret of the dying, number two: I wish I hadn't worked so much.
This is the most common one I spot around me.
I see so many of my friends or my family members, and even myself, working way more than necessary, missing time with families, putting their health in jeopardy, struggling, getting all upset and frustrated, building this massive ego up about how important I am at work.
I've done that and I can tell you, nobody cares about you really fast when you're gone from work. It's the people, your friends, your family, your community, those people really give a shit about you, and you will often be forgotten quick at work.
Yet, how many of us spend more time at work every week than we do with our family and we do with our friends?
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I took this regret to heart and this is why I've sold the stuff out of my studio. The question this book asked is: if you only had five more years to live, what would you change?
I saw the one thing I would change is this. I would refuse to spend hours of my day every day filming videos.
Instead I do a little five-minute live stream on YouTube, five-minute live stream on Facebook. I can still share something helpful with you, and yet I have the rest of my day to spend out in the community with people I can see in person.
The number three regret of the dying is: I wish I'd told people the way I really felt.
This one, I'm doing well with. I tell everybody how much I love them. I get so excited and share even heartfelt compliment sometimes just telling someone you think they're beautiful, that's how you felt and they're dying to hear that compliment.
A lot of us hold back, we're afraid of being vulnerable. We're afraid of what people will think and on the death bed when you're on your death bed, you want to have let out all of that. Make sure everybody knows how much you love them, what they did for you in your life, and I'm grateful I'm doing great on that.
Number four: I wish I'd let myself be happy.
You don't need to wait until you get the promotion. You don't need to wait until you make X number of sales. You can just be happy today.
You can just be happy today. Be happy today my loves.
Nothing you're going to get is going to make you much happier. In fact, I had told myself that I'll be happy when I have an awesome job that I love and a beautiful girl that wants to be with me, and I got both of those things 11 years ago and I hit the lowest point of despair I've experienced in my life because I wasn't happy.
Getting things doesn't make you happy. It's being yourself and loving and helping others that does make you happy, taking good care of yourself.
And the fifth regret of the dying.
The number five is: I wish I'd kept up with my friends.
Can you imagine being on your death bed and nobody understands you?
And for years before this, nobody you've kept up with remembers how you were 10, 20, 30 years ago. This is one I've also taken action on immediately reconnecting with more of my friends, saying, "Hey man, what's going on?"
It helps so much to have people that knew you over a long period of your life and can give you perspective.
"Wow, man. Jerry, you've really came a long way from a crazy drunken fool to be responsible, be a responsible father, a faithful husband. Isn't that an amazing change?"
I've shared these with you today to make a massive difference in your life because when you begin with the end in mind, you can truly live the life that matters today and I hope this will help you live a better life.
I love you.
You're awesome.
Thanks for being here.
I'll see you tomorrow. Thanks for all the likes on the stream.
Love,
Jerry Banfield
Edits from video transcript by Michel Gerard.
Originally published at https://jerrybanfield.com.