Social Studies Lesson: || Readiness for marriage || by @latifah1

Marriage is a term or name referred to for an activity to unite or unite a man with a woman for a long time and involves economic, social, health and responsibility aspects that are recognized as true and legal in religion, custom and the state.
In the activity of uniting the relationship between a man and a woman there are several conditions that must be met.

Talking about the terms of marriage, there are several things that must be met by prospective partners. these conditions depend on each country, religion and customs respectively. Therefore, to provide answers in this Contest, I will describe in general terms covering aspects of the state, religion and customs.

5 conditions for marriage

1. commitment.
   Before stepping into marriage, it is necessary to have a strong commitment to be able to work together with the same goal so that a marriage relationship remains harmonious and happy.
   If it is based on a strong commitment to be able to work together in the household, mutual respect and responsibility will be formed.

2. Age
   Maturity of age and in thinking become a benchmark for someone to be ready to get married. Usually the age level can affect a person's mindset. The older you get, the more experience you have. The more experience, the more mature you think and the wiser you are.
   The ideal age for marriage is important, at least for men aged 25 years and women 21 years.

3. Health
   Physical and mental health is very important. After marriage, life will not be your own because it already belongs to your family with your partner. In this case, one must be prepared to have the health to work physically and mentally and mentally.

4. Work
   Work and finances have a relationship with each other. Financial problems are a vital part of a marriage, even financial problems are often the main trigger for divorce. For this reason, many people recommend discussing income profiles with a potential wife or husband to understand each other's spending styles.

5. Loving each other
   When deciding to get married there is no coercion, but it must be based on the sincerity of both and get the approval of the two families of the bride and groom. In practice, if it is based on love and affection to live together, mutual understanding will be realized and cover each other's shortcomings.

Consequences of not ready to marry.

1. Depression
   Married young or still underage will be more prone to depression. Young age is a time when a person is still in the stage of searching for identity and feeling so fast that mood swings are not stable. On the other hand, in terms of health, it is also very dangerous where at a young age the body's cells are still in development and growth.

2. Conflict
   By getting married, everyone hopes to be happy and not have problems that can trigger the breakdown of relationships in the household. However, as a human being, we are not free from mistakes, including being carried away in the habits of life while still unmarried.
   Now. This matter is included in the problem that can affect the harmony in the household so that it is very potential for differences of opinion to occur by defending each other's opinions which in the end can become unresolved conflicts.

3. Needs not met
   Financial expenses that are not well controlled and not in accordance with income can be a dangerous problem where a person cannot sort and choose urgent basic needs.
   When someone spends money on shopping for non-essential purposes, suddenly something urgent appears to be addressed, such as an accident or so on. So where does the money for medical expenses come from? This can be a serious problem.
   Why did it happen? The bottom line is inadequate finance and not being able to manage finances.

4. Mental burden
   In family life, both husband and wife need physical and spiritual health. In the sense that I mean here, the health of mothers and fathers can affect the condition and upbringing of children. For working mothers or fathers, the social pressures of work and the home environment can be stressful.
   On the other hand, the existence of financial problems, differences of opinion are also possible to be a mental burden for someone.

5. Divorce.
   Basically everyone when they want to get married has a million hopes and dreams. They hope to live together in one happy family. However, some of them ran aground in the middle of the road which had to end in separation for various reasons of their own. There are those who say they are no longer suitable, often have disagreements, infidelity, irresponsibility, and there are also those who give an assessment after conducting research that one of the causes of divorce is due to not being ready to get married.

I cannot describe my parents' marriage at length. While writing this content I feel sad, my father has died and my mother is sick. According to stories from people close to the family, that my parents were a perfect match, they had almost exactly the same educational background, my father was a teacher and religious leader with an educational background in a well-known Islamic boarding school. While my mother is a teacher in a government agency. basically my parents arranged an arranged marriage but there was no coercion. Based on the agreement of their parents, they were brought together to get to know each other with the aim of getting to the level of marriage. My grandmother once said, at that time your mother and father did not know each other, but after the two met, they liked and respected each other. Their marriage was simple and unpretentious, this was due to the marriage of a religious figure with an educational figure. In my opinion, they are parents who are successful in building a household and providing education to us. The character embedded in his soul has educated and inspired us a lot. Today we, as children of 6 siblings, can be said to be successful in education and work.