Embrace Love and Change - A Chance to Regroup
It is amazing that many Christians will not accept that they are God's creation or that they have any rights or freedoms, and that is why God created and has reserved them for others. He wants us to be one with him but sometimes we get so caught up in guarding our "kids," that we can't embrace all that God has given us. Unfortunately there are many who need to understand this because they are being manipulated, lied to, or abused by the opposite sex, especially those who are dating women who are emotionally unavailable. God forbid! If I am not for myself, then who is?
The fact of the matter is that the problem is not that people are so mean-spirited or that they are just trying to trick another person into having a relationship with them. The problem is that some Christians are too caught up in carrying around emotions that they often think of only good things and are quick to judge and reject another person without hesitation. This will not do anyone any good. This mentality needs to stop. The Bible says, "By understanding the gifts and talents which the children of the fathers have received you will receive the revelation of the secret things of God." (Romans 8:20) We can draw insight from that passage to know that when God withdraws His help, He withdraws the same from those whom he promises to deliver.
Now then, I know that this is very difficult to hear, but you can still draw insight from that same passage in Romans 9:20. It is written there that, "God is not up there making demands or holding back His heart from giving you what you ask for." We have been conditioned by society to think that it is good or acceptable to blame others or to use fear and anger as means of manipulation. But the truth is that God does not do these things. Therefore, the best way to deal with an emotionally unavailable person is not to try to manipulate or control them, but to show them love.
It is so much easier to blame someone else when you are feeling burned out and frustrated and also feeling rejected. But, the truth is that we all come into this world feeling this way. The reason why we get angry is usually because we are frustrated. When I get angry at people I will let it go out on my friends and family. However, if I was not able to let it go out on my friends and family, I would be unable to move on with my life.
The way that I let go of the anger was to allow myself to be moved by the power of God's love. I had to allow God's love to move through me and draw love from Him. When I do this, I find that I am not angry any longer. It may not have been so easy before, but I now have the peace of mind that I have been searching for. I no longer feel like I am alone.
What has changed for me is that I now understand that I can talk to people about what is troubling me. This has helped me tremendously. Talking to people has brought my heart back into the game. I am not looking at it as a rejection or being critical of anyone.
Embracing love has made my family much happier. My children are no longer being confronted with how they are doing in school. They know that I love them and that I am confident in them. In fact, I feel like I have more control over them now than I did when my marriage was falling apart. That has to do with the way I deal with the change in my heart.
Do you have what it takes to move forward? Are you looking at this situation as a chance to regroup? Or are you holding onto everything for no reason? You can make a big change in your life by giving into God's wisdom. That is the key.