Are children with low self-esteem and introversion easily being bullied? Parents pay more attention to these details to save his inferiority complex
In daily life, you can always see children who are introverted and inferior, are easily bullied by others when making friends, and are always reluctant to speak.
What causes a child to have excessive low self-esteem? Parents should pay more attention to these details.
1. Is the child often criticized?
Many parents think that criticizing their children more is to help them correct their bad problems, for the sake of their children. Children need the guidance of their parents, as well as their praise.
Praise brings children not only joy, but also confidence.
Blindly criticizing will only make the child feel that he is bad, no matter what he does is wrong. It is impossible for young children to realize the significance of their parents' strictness so early, and excessive criticism will only make him more and more inferior. This inferiority complex will grow from their childhood and spread to all stages of life.
Praise is a very simple thing. You can praise your child's paintings and appreciate his singing. Even if you just wake up a few minutes earlier today, you can praise him unreservedly. Let the child's heart be filled with sunshine and dispel the shadows of inferiority.
2. Is the child lacking in social interaction?
Some children are naturally timid and have never tried to integrate into a group. Only when others find him, he will speak more.
Such passive communication is very detrimental to the child's social skills. He is likely to gradually form this habit and never consider active social interaction.
Unable to adapt to the group, unable to integrate into the group, this kind of child can easily become the target of bullying. In addition, he is very likely not to tell his parents about his grief, and over time, he will become more and more silent and inferior.
Therefore, when the child has not yet formed an independent character, parents should guide the child to take the initiative to socialize and guide the child to open their heart bravely.
For example, take your children to some outdoor activities and encourage them to greet others during these activities. If the child is afraid, the parents will personally demonstrate to the child, let him know that it is not difficult to make friends with others.
3. Does the child refuse to reject others?
We call people who don't refuse other people's demands as "good old people", who are always good to others, but don't give themselves the right to choose freely. Many "good old guys" grew up from "good little guys", and many children have the trouble of not daring to refuse others.
At this time, parents must not blame their children for incompetence. Your blaming will only make the child more self-confident and more inferior.
What parents need to do is to cultivate their children's self-awareness. Self-awareness does not mean selfishness. It is for children to develop the habit of protecting their property rights.
Tell him that he can help others, and he can also refuse others. Your life and your belongings are all up to you.
If the effect of the language is not good, use actions to change it.
For example, don't make decisions for your child without authorization. Ask him more about his own opinions. Even if it is the color of clothes to wear, you can let the child make his own decision. After making a lot of decisions, over time he will have his own opinions, as well as his own thinking and choices.
I once saw this sentence: We may not be able to change this world, but at least we will not be changed by this world.
Parents cannot eliminate all the difficulties in the world for their children, but they can at least cultivate their children to be brave enough. No parent bears the heart to see their children being bullied, but it's absolutely not enough to just not bear the heart. You must teach by precept and deeds.