RE: Lets talk about Sex in a positive way
Some really valid points and thoughts expressed here. It is my experience that some people just are not sexually compatible. Some people have high sex drives and others have nearly none. It's important that people are equally matched. Love and sex aren't the same thing - not even close... I believe that relationships strengthen when people can do things together - share experiences. I think that when people don't do things together anymore relationships weaken. When we strengthen relationships with people other than our partner, we potentially weaken the relationship with our partner. Shame, resentment and bad feelings are sure ways to drive a wedge in any relationship. No matter what - work on strengthening your relationship with your partner - especially if children are involved. I think it is really important to be honest and transparent with a partner where needs aren't being met. Usually a touchy subject with your partner though...
I do agree mostly with you on the fact that you need to spend time together, but we sometimes expect too much from a partner. We are our own entity, and not always a union. Experiences don’t always need to be made together, especially if you like other things, and it gives room to admire the other person or interesting stories. I do believe that sexual compatibility is extremely important in a relationship, but needs do change over time, and indeed talking about it is really difficult, because it can easily end up in resentment.