THE USEFULNESS OF FRIENDSHIP: AN EYE OPENER FROM GIRLS TRIP

Everyone needs that one person or people they can rely on. That one person/people that listens to them, encourage them to be better, advice, help in time of need either emotionally, psychologically, financially etc, party with, share confidences and secrets, they are simply there for one another in every way. They are who you would call FRIENDS.

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According to aristotle, there are three kinds of friends,

FRIENDSHIP OF UTILITY

This a type of friendship with someone as a result of what that person can do for you. Let's say a neighbour that helps you watch over a dog when you travel, or that person that can fix your electrical appliances, or that person buys your goods.. Bottomline, you are nice to that person because he/she is useful to you in one area or the other.

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FRIENDSHIP OF PLEASURE

This is a kind of friendship is formed as result of pleasure people get from each other. Tom is a wealthy man, therefore Dick and Harry are friends with him because he hosts the biggest party in town and they want to be identified with him. These kind of friends don't love you for who you are, in fact they don't know you, they Love instead for the pleasure they derive from you. It could be a sexual relationship, where your partner loves you for money, sex or connection. Once the pleasure is gone, they are gone with it.

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FRIENDSHIP FOR GOOD OR PERFECT FRIENDSHIP

This is what everyone yearns for. People in this friendship love for themselves for whom they are. This kind of friendships takes years to build. They are there for each other through thick and thin. They share in each other's joy and pain. There is utility and pleasure here, but they are grounded in Love. They don't struggle to please themselves or be who they don't want to be because they accept their weakness and love themselves still. You might make bad choices in relationships, career and marriages and push them away, but somehow they will still be there for you. They are not jealous of your achievements and success but instead they celebrate with you and inspire you to be better. Many people will come into your life and leave but these friends are CONSTANT.

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Ryan Pearce had the perfect friendship. Ryan Pearce is a character in Girls Trip, a 2017 comedy movie directed by Malcom Lee. Lee did a great job in the direction, it is all shades of funny, the story line is on point and the is as engaging as it can be. Pearce is a celebrity best selling author, She is the girl that has it all, a perfect marriage and a successful career. She had a crew from college called Flossy Posse. A four girl crew that loved and fought for themselves, they are Sasha; a journalist turned broke celebrity blogger, Dina; a recently fired bad ass, Lisa; a single Mom with no love life. These women are now in their 40s and busy with their lives. When Pearce got an invite to be a keynote speaker in Essence Festival in New Orleans, she decide it was time for Flossey Posse to ride again. The 4 friends reunited again, it was one hell of a crazy weekend and it turned out that Pearce has been unhappy in her marriage for 2 years. Her darling husband was cheating on her with an instagram celebrity but Pearce had to keep staying in the marriage to maintain her status in the world, "the girl that has it all". But the Floosy Posse won't let one of their own to continue in a miserable life, and so they helped her find her freedom and it paid off for the rest of them. The whole world could judge Pearce for living a fake life, but they didn't, instead they helped her walk out of it. That's what friends do.

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Check yourself and the people you surround yourself with, maybe it's time to change those friends of yours or appreciate that good one. A good friend is hard to find.

I know that there are some of us that prefer not to have friends, the truth is We need them, we need good friends. Life is already tough difficult and unfair and being a loner won't make it easier. To have no one that you are accountable to, to have no one to share your life with, that's not life... Alone is good but Team is better. So why don't you find yourself a good friend today if you have not, and if you have, appreciate them. Also try to be a good friend, you can only find a good friend if you are a good friend. You can't give what you don't have..

Shoutout to @gloxypearl, I know you can't see this right now. But I appreciate you today and everyday, you bring colour to my world and you inspire me. I often ask you why you are still my friend despite how difficult i can be.. Thank you, for being there in many ways. When next you come, we will watch Girls' Trip together. I love you, dear..

I hope i'm able to inspire you today..

It's the one and only @nmalove