Lifestyle: Saying "NO" to domestic violence. (part one)

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Violence isn't what one should rely on to prove a point or to express his annoyance or dissatisfaction over any matter at home. No one should be taken as a trash where hits and blows is allocated without any consideration on the pains and agony he or she must be going through. However, dearly beloved steemians, lets share some thoughts on the causes of violence although this isn't to encourage violence.

Domestic violence is the act of raging of anger on an individual over an unpleased action or situation resulting in hitting, beating, bruising and killing of someone at home.

As the name implies, domestic violence, it's a violence that occurs between individuals at home. It could be the husband to the wife or children and vice versa. We have a good number of cases of violence from the man and most time from the woman. Children in the home most time exhibit domestic violence towards their parents as well. In this publication, I will narrow the discussion to the man and woman in the relationship or marriage.

A whole lot of things can lead to domestic violence in the home. Here are but a few of what could lead to domestic violence.

• Transferred Attitude: Most of the people that exhibit violence in relationship or marriage inherited it from their parents. They have experience different cases of violence between the parent thereby taking it to be a normal thing. They see it as a means of correction which is actually not. Bad attitude shouldn't be kept as its effect can't be over emphasized.

• Mistrust among Partners: Most partners pick on their spouses over everything because of mistrust. They keep believing that the spouse had done something wrong and with anger, raising their hands on them even when they are telling the truth.

• Jealousy: A situation of one partner especially the female being richer or commanding much more influence or respect brings jealousy. Very little number of people with sound minds can stand this. When this comes to play, the partner that isn't wealth takes up violence to be his or her only source of defence ignorantly.

• Disrespect: When there is no respect in a relationship, abuse is inevitable. Respect most be reciprocated to retain peace but when disrespect set in, the reverse is the case.

• Managed or pitied relationship: Most people continued staying in a relationship out of pity. I see it not accurate to love or stay with someone out of the pity you have for the person especially one that is mistreating you. Some feel that if they leave, that the other will really suffer which might not be so.

• Lack of forgiveness: Forgiveness helps to eradicate offences without this, misunderstandings when piled up migrate to some violence reaction.

• No fear of God: No fear of God as the supreme can lead to violence. A man that does not have God as the higher authority over him and understands that He hates violence will find it difficult to abstain from it.

• Fear of starting all over: Some people manages violence at the initial stage because of fear of finding or starting another fresh relationship but they forget that it's easy to give birth to one than resurrect a death one.

• Fear of what people will say: It is obvious to know that the reason most people stay in a relationship filled of violence is because of the fear of what friends, neighbours and relatives will see. They tends to protect the interest of the relationship and the very partner that is bullying them forgetting the mishap that will befall them if such act should continue.

Violence should never be used at home for any reason in the name of correction. We should all treat humans as ourselves. The same pains and discomfort you get with blows and bruises is the same one another get. Let's refrain from violence. I will definitely bring your way the dangers and other things surrounding violence in my next post. Thanks

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