WHY MANY MARRIAGE FAIL

Marriage failed because we don't want to accept our shortcomings, and take responsibilities for our actions to either fix it now and then or work on it gradually until we get results.

Many couples ask me is there any marriage without tears and I answered yes.

And as you are reading this post you may be thinking how could that be possible when marriage are full of tears and with so much seen on social media.

I will say for real social media had less loose and expose so much that used to subtle not that it was a secret, because many of us don't have assess to affordable means of telecommunications to transmit those information eating up our society through some are abusing.

But thank God, facebook own by Mark Zuckerberg that made it possible even for a year old child to share their information, ideas, knowledge, advice....

Back to marriage business I started with, let us come to terms of it. Let us be wise I am a great supporter/campaigner of "No to domestic violence "so if I encourage you to work on your relationship I didn't mean any harm.

If all you see in your marriage is tear that is what you will experience but if all you see is good, great, joy, peace, progress, I know God is not a LIAR you will see.

Is it everything /challenge you experience that you attributes to problem?

If you see yourself as a perfect soul without stain or blemish then I promise you that you still have a lot of work to do on yourself, because your expectations from your spouse might not be what you will get from him/her then that is the beginning of problem.

I qoute "marriage is not meant to be enduring, it's meant to be enjoying".

I encourage us all to do our best in our marriage /relationship, let us search ourselves that we are not the one adding petrol on the burning fire ,then we will see that it's without tears.

Study your spouse, decend when to speak and when to keep quiet, it does not mean you are stupid.

Take to Godly correction, beware of side talk and third party syndrome, enjoy every moment you share together, life is too short to continue carrying 1 millions baggage of burden around.

Communication please talk. However some were wired in such a way that they struggle to communicate, this is where you have to help or else.

It's a big challenge because through communication so many marriage issues can be resolved. If she/her doesn't talk you will ask me how do we communicate. I say try and work with him/her to make the marriage work.