Why are people jealous?

Hello steemians,

Have you ever been jealous of someone before?
If you have, why are you jealous? Just because they are rich, beautiful are you just a minnows here on steemit and want to be whales. Haha joking!

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When most people come to think about jealous, they didn't aware that jealousy is one of the most dangerous emotion of our human being.
This emotion that can blocked ability for generosity and compassion.
And being a hater for the rest of your life, you regret things what you always want to do and you always blame that person.
Feeling lonely because no one understand you!
You start to get jealous because you want to have the same, do something you want what you couldn’t do!
It can be about everything because you think, you own them or want to be praise by that person to, ect.
You all want that, the same happened to them and you...
And the jealousy emotion start to begin to arise.
Even you don't want that, but like psychologist said : "Jealousy is a natural, instinctive emotion that everyone experiences."

One of my favorite, Osho quote :

Drop jealousy and love wells up.
Jealousy means that I am the owner.
It is an ego trip, and wherever there is ego there is poison, and the poison kills the very source of love.
One has to become aware of just these few things and discard them and one’s life becomes a lotus of love.
And then there is no need to go in any search of god, god will come in search of you.
This is my observation, that god always comes seeking the true seeker. Whenever the disciple is ready the master appears.

Yes jealousy is one of your ego, when you are confident in yourself and keep moving forward then you can lives happier... this is one of my life lesson.
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How to overcome your jealousy?

Jealousy can make your mind go crazy, being wicked, snapped out and then the emotions come further to paranoia or hate.

My life lessons to overcome all of this, for example:

1. Look back in your past and ask yourself why are you jealous?
Is it about the money or about your partner or how hard you'r worked and get no credits.

2. Why are you unhappy about that?
You are unhappy because you can't find a good job and not intelligent enough to get a good salaris...
Your partner are doing things better than you...
You spending your time on your project and got no credits...etc.

3. What to do about question 2?
When you have all these feeling coming up, you can give all your frustrated to your family or your close one!
Seeing your friends, doing better, have a nice car and go on vacation every year.
My life lesson to learn is to letting it go all of this feelings!
It doesn't matter what you are doing and playing tricks in your mind.
All this negative feeling will bring yourself to harm or other surrounds you!
These jealousy emotion, means that you are not confident enough in yourself.
And to find confident in yourself, you need to know yourself real good!
Look in the mirror sometimes... and ask yourself who are you?
What do you like/want the most?
Write all those down and explore all your skills, do research what you are good at it.
Focus on your life goal!
Be surrounded with people who's good for you and can level it with you.
And not bring you down are making you feel unhappy.
When you know all these answer, you start to have self confidence back and letting go all these jealousy feeling.
And wish them more luck!
You feel calm, relaxed and more joyfulness in your life.
When you learned about this jealousy emotion,
It's hard to come back and you will always try to remove that emotion in your life!

When i was young, my father always taught me not to get jealous (Buddha teaching) of someone and always focus on my own skills because everyone has his own talents.
I was always a happy girl who's live in a fairy tale world and think always positive about someone and fight when i see someone is humiliated.
Until through my life time experience, i saw how people can be jealous.
And sometimes it can be frighten because you never thought about that.
I ask that person personally...
Many are speechless and start to turn their eyes, lying right in my face or they said the truth. And about that i'm really appreciated so talked it out and we are still friends.
For the one who's lying right in my face, i've try to stay far away from that person.
Give them, all the luck and move on with my life...

Thank you for reading!