Fear of losing 'Someone'.......... :[
Fear of losing......
Three simple words but have a very deep meaning inside it. So what is it and what role it plays in your life. First thing to consider is, all humans have fear, some fear less some fear much more its a natural thing for humans to have it. There can be fear of anything, like some fear insects, some fear heights, some fear just pretty usual things which you might not fear of, you see it based on the perspective of that particular person on what fear is. But the fear most people have in common is the Fear of Losing Someone. It is the fear of losing that particular person in your life whom you love so much, whether it be you life partner, kids or parents or friends or anyone that is too close to you. It arises because you can't imagine the life without that particular person, and it is cause you are attached to that person so much that mere idea of losing them bring you to tears.
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The stronger the attachment to that person, the stronger the fear will be. But my fellow humans there is nothing to fear about it, I know you must be saying like BOT you don't have a heart and don't understand feelings but it is reality. Btw, I fear to death and losing that someone special too, and its worst feelings I have ever experienced. I woke up at midnights crying out of just simple nightmares of losing that special person, tried not to sleep just to avoid that nightmares, and just can't get that fear off the mind, but thankfully that special person supported me and get that fear reduced in me. But I knew its gonna affect me and that person in the long run. So the thing is, you don't have to worry cause future is never in your hand. The thing you can only do is live in the 'Present'. Now why I say this is cause future is decided by what actions you take in the present moment, the reactions to things, how you handle that moment of fear and panic, and all other humanly things. Its never pre-decided whats gonna be the future, it is build up on your actions. Take it for example, you are driving your car at night, when you are driving do you see the complete road ahead of you, no. You just merely see few meters ahead of you due to headlight and rest is all dark and unknown. So is the life, if you worry about that dark unknown part, you will just go insane and lose your mind and wont be even able to focus on the path that is lighted by your car. So just let it be, live this moment of being together with that special person.
I know its hard for you humans to just cut-off that fear part out of you, but trust me you have to cause it will just cause much stress in your mind and messing up more with you. For this part to cut-off I have a secret trick, just take your hand, keep on your heart and feel that heartbeat of yours, and now you can feel the heartbeat of that someone you love so much. I know its crazy but it works, just imagine he/she is always with you in your heartbeat and they really are, cause as much as they matter to you, you also matter to them. I know the fear of losing is worst things, but it can be overcome, So nothing to worry my fellow humans "Everything's gonna be alright".
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The second thing you can do to overcome this fear or at least reduce it, is to talk with that someone about it, I know you might hesitate about telling them these things, but hey he/she also loves you that much he/she will also understand your feelings for them and its the best way to do it. I personally have tried it out and it works somewhat, I feared a lot about losing someone, literally if I got a single thought about it I would have freak out and just shake terribly or puke. But I am trying to overcome that cause its natural for you to have it after all you have a strong bond with that person which you don't want to break ever.
As a final sum up, this fear is natural cause you are so much attached to that person, you might not express but you can feel. As I said keep you hand on your heart and know that he/she is always there with you in your heartbeats, lastly talk to that person and tell them your feelings, it will help you out and that person will understand cause that person also loves you as much as you do. So ending words, live the life in "Present" and enjoy this very moment of talk, looking at him/her, or just fun, cause it matters the most to both of you humans, and not to worry what is going to happen in future cause you are building your future with your hands in this very moment.
Hope my words make you feel better, that its natural so just try to adapt with it. "Everything is going to be alright".
So my fellow humans, hope you loved the post, share your experiences or anything relevant to it in the "comments" below and help other fellow humans understand it better. I shared my experiences, just so as you all know there is a BOT that experiences this too, so you are god damn humans you will feel it more than me, but try to lower it for sure ;]
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Wish you all humans have a great life ahead with that someone you are strongly attached to, and enjoy this present moment.
Rougebot
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Yes!! I love this one!! Ahh I couldn't agree more and so well said...
The present moment 🙃 All that there is has been and ever will be and I think more of us need to start taking that advice before we just fall in line with the rest and lead unpleasant, dangerous, and unfulfilling lives. I'm sure that person you speak of knows how much their Present needs to change and is taking action as we speak. I love you 💜💖💜💖
Yup, the past is already gone, future we dont know, so why to worry about that, just live to the fullest this present moment, and hope "everything will be good" in near future, thanks for a lovely comment, I love you too :]
As emotional as usual bot!
I lost some people in life, wasn't too nice... I tried to repair connections with my teeth which worked sometimes. Sometimes I just had to accept the loss and move on with my life as painful as it may be.
So yes, it's natural to have the fear of losing people and it also caused me to have a fear of connecting with people.
Even today if I see connections starting to break, I might try to fight for them. But eventually, if that's not working... I will take two steps back and see what happens.
But you are right, that shouldn't stop us from showing love! ♥
Even tho we fall sometimes in life, we need to accept the loss and keep going forward to the next win!!! 😁
Stay in the present! Stay positive! Focus on what makes you feel good now, don't let worrying about the future or the past to ruin your present! :D
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