Is it Right to House Your Child Past the Age of 30?

Children are the coolness of their parent’s eyes. In order to help them grow up so that they could merge and become a part of society. But the responsibility, which is already quite tough, gets hectic when the child becomes an adult and still refuses to work hard and settle on his own. Parents take care of their children when they are young, weak and cannot walk on their own. But once they mature up it is time for them to leave their nest.
But in some cases, parents feel overprotective, it was wisely said:

“If you are trying to rescue an adult from experiencing the consequences of their irresponsible choices you are actually expressing disrespect. You are saying, “YOU ARE LESS CAPABLE OF LIVING RESPONSIBLY THAN I AM. YOU ARE LIKE A CHILD”.

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Cases where it is Acceptable:

Financial Difficulties:

If the child is having a difficult time finding a stable job with sufficient income to help him live on his own. But this does not mean that he stops looking for a job entirely or hardworking jobs don’t suit him. And spoiling the child does not provide him the motivation to work hard. It only drags him back. It stops him from his independence.
It is as Donna King said:

“Back in the 90s, sociologists studied what they called ‘boomerang children’, adult children who returned home or were in and out of their parents’ home. What they found that it wasn’t because they were freeloaders. It was because the economy was bad”.

Psychological Depression:

In some cases, the child becomes unable to cope with the hardships of reality. In these cases, the child should be helped. The parents need to be supportive and cooperative. If there are some problems it is the right of the parent to get to the root of the problem and cut them from their problems. Build confidence and then raise them into the society once again.

Spoiling Children:

Indeed Children are the most precious and dear to their parents, but the problem arises when the parents spoil their children, making their children depend on them instead of walking on their own two feet. There are some cases where it is acceptable for your child to stay at home. The process of moving on is not an easy task. But failing to do so is a very disastrous situation. There is a balance in life, and that balance needs to be maintained. In most cases, it the fault of the parents for not properly nurturing their child and leaving him up to his own devices. He ends up picking up the wrong company from the start.

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Failure of Parents:

If the child lacks in motivation, he brings his friends over, he spends his father’s money like he owns it, and he stays out till late then the child has fallen to the depth of the darkness. Not being able to raise children to stand up on their own is the failure of the parents. Since every child is capable. They are just talented in different fields and if the parents start forcing their own dreams on their children then the child is bound to drown.

Conclusion

In the end, raising children is a sensitive topic. Parents should be ready to face consequences that come along with raising their children. Observing the things the child likes, the areas where his talent shines best, since “It is better to be a big fish in a little pond then a little fish in a big pond”. Thus if the correct approach is taken then by the age of 30 the child would surely be ready to go out and face the world on his own. Eventually, he would move out and become independent as well. It is just a matter of how much attention was paid to him, while keeping in mind to give the child space to grow. If the parents can manage to balance between overprotective and negligent then they might be able to raise their children brilliantly.
It was wisely said:

“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”

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