How can shame limit us?

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Although perhaps at first glance we may not find a relationship between the problem that exists between shame and the way in which it could affect us in our limitation to develop personally, there are links and aspects that explain why shame limits us in our lives.

It is normal to feel shame, it is an aspect that all human beings can feel at some point in our lives, however it is important that this feeling is very well correlated with the actions we have executed, because if it becomes a habit to feel shame for everything when we really should not feel it, then it is at that point where it will bring us problems in our lives.

Shame can rob us of the opportunity to continue having multiple life experiences, because when something embarrasses us it makes us stop trying, for example: suppose a person is in public before a crowd of people listening to him and at that moment he makes a mistake in the pronunciation of a word, then he has to speak again in public but he is ashamed because he remembers his mistake, that feeling of shame is limiting this person to continue trying to speak in public, especially considering that anyone can make a mistake.

The important thing is to know how to assume when shame fits within a context where there is room for some limitation to our actions, because there may be other scenarios where we should not let ourselves be limited by the feeling of shame.