In many people, there is such a contradiction: we desire freedom and imprison ourselves.

Take marriage as an example. Maybe we were not ready to get married, but we personally sent ourselves into the "cage" of marriage. We long for a happier life through marriage, but we are always doing things we don't like.

What is it that suppresses our pursuit of "marriage freedom"?

When to enter the freedom of marriage

There is a word called "marriage age". The marriageable age is the age suitable for marriage. In fact, there is no explanation for this word in the dictionary, this word was created by everyone.

People usually define this age as the period from college graduation to 30 years old. If a young person at this age has no partner, or is only in love without getting married, he will be urged to marry. And these people who are frequently urged, even if they feel happy to be single and happy not to get married, as they grow older, they will slowly accept this urge, which triggers a kind of marital anxiety.

This kind of social pressure will make them feel that they should do what they can do at their age.

There are many such friends around me. When he was single, when discussing when to get married, he would not hesitate to say, 32 years old at the latest, 31 years old at the latest, and so on. It seems to be completing a KPI. If the quality is not up to date, it is always possible to complete the target. In the old society, the biggest purpose of marriage was to reproduce offspring.

However, in modern civilized society, it seems that a happy life is not entirely the goal of marriage. We are still bound by primitive ideas and social rules handed down.

Many people get married when they reach a certain age in order to meet the social rules. We cannot deny the value of marriage. Its existence must have more advantages. It makes society more orderly.

It’s just that for those who have not yet recognized themselves and are not ready, do you really want to enter marriage in such a hurry? In fact, being too easy to be bound by rules is not accepting oneself enough, not daring to live out oneself, for fear of being regarded as a "heterogeneous". They need to become like most people to feel safe, and they need to rely on outside recognition to feel their own value. However, individualization is the embodiment of a person's vitality.

We must dare to control the time when we enter marriage, instead of being kidnapped into marriage by social rules.

The unfreedom of marriage is the restraint of a person by social rules. It’s too hard to always live so well.

Give up the so-called social rules, give yourself more permission, and find your own freedom. Whether it is marriage or other.