What is a good relationship?

Last night, my neighbors downstairs quarreled fiercely. The man is saying: "I have not had a good day with you all these years. You always ask for this and that, so that people can't live." The woman was crying, and yelled after crying: "Are you embarrassed to say? I don't go home all day long, where did I go? I don't know?" Most of the night, they should be cursing on the balcony. In short, I heard it clearly. Although I haven't slept yet, it still disturbs my dreams. It didn't take long for the property staff to communicate with each other. Another excitement, this is just barely dying.

I know that downstairs is a small couple. When I moved in, I was sent upstairs by an elevator. I looked at them, and the two young people who were very friendly. The woman appears to be a bit domineering, and may be of the "spoiled" type. The boy asked in a good voice several times: "Where to eat at noon?" The woman ignored it at all. Finally, the boy said: "Then I'm back to the company." The woman was angry: "It's the company and the company, which beauty does the company have." Later, I might think that there is another me in the elevator-these two people. Did not go on.

Neighbors are always easier to see. Moreover, this woman seems to be out of work and stays at home every day. Come out to walk the dog when you have nothing to do. After that dinner, I came out to take out the garbage. She stood by the trash can and said loudly on the phone: "Why are you still not going home? How many points are there? What overtime? Do you make a lot of money?" The boy was still explaining, and the girl just blocked the phone. Yelling: "What is it." "Go away, what else can you do besides eating and drinking Lazar?" The dog at his feet breathed at her extremely innocently.

In fact, from the outside, the couple is really a good match. Being tall, short, fat and thin, I can't find any shortcomings. Women are squeamish and a little overbearing, but boys can tolerate and will hug and hug them at critical times. What else? No, no, this is just a relationship. However, it is not a good relationship. Because their quarrel is completely unnecessary. Besides, it hurts feelings very much. Don’t they think? For this breakup, it's not worth it. These years have passed and should be cherished. For this not to break up, continue to love and kill each other?

A good partnership should be based on trust and not restrict the freedom of the other party. At the same time, it is the best relationship to not abuse one's freedom with a heart of cherishment. In fact, there are three indispensable keywords here: First, trust. Two, no restrictions. Three, do not abuse. Anything that can't be done is useless. Trust, it goes without saying. If couples don’t even have the most basic trust, like every day they guard against thieves, what kind of love do you still love?

Under the premise of trust, the following is "not restricting" the other party's freedom; and "not abusing" one's own freedom. Don't think that these are just a few words. But it is extremely difficult to achieve it. After all, people like to "be strict with others and treat themselves with lenientness." This double standard is a proper oath. However, you love this person. Can you not be too principled? At least, let the other person feel better, and you also feel better. In this way, each other can be more considerate and understanding. If you restrict the other person’s freedom and indulge yourself...