Violence: Monica’s story
I have lived in a violent marriage for years. I was very naive a first and really didn’t know people like him existed. He would kick me, slap me, push me, throw things at me, call me names the list goes on and on, but he never punched me.
I’m fact he would say to people that he couldn’t stand people that beat their wives. He would tell me he didn’t want the children to play with so and sos children because they were a bad influence.
He tried to isolate us from all those who loved us and new people we met would go through character assassinations by him.
Life was a continuous hell, fear and horror and he always blamed me and the children for his violence.
Things got a lot worse towards the end. He would threaten to run us off the road in the car and kill us. The violence became a daily occurrence if not not several episodes a day.
How she coped.
She tried to keep him happy so he wouldn’t do those things to them. She believed for a long time it was her and the children’s fault. She cried when he wasn’t home and lost all belief in herself. She was isolated and talked to no one about what was happening. All she could do was hide it from the world.
How her situation changed.
When his violence became much worse she changed. She began to read about self esteem and positive affirmations. She contacted a friend who use to work in a woman’s center and speaking to her made her realize she wasn’t alone. Finally she saw the reality of what was really happening.
What helped her.
The domestic violence center for women helped her very much. The support, understanding and sharing of experiences. She has done some violence recovery and self confidence courses. And when a family court recognize what they went through, they ordered absolutely no contact for him with the children.
Her advise to others.
If I could come and help you leave i would but it’s you who has to do it. Leaving permanently is the only thing that will change the situation. You can’t make him better no matter how much you love him. It is not your fault. You deserve so much better.
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Awesome write-up bro
Thanks bro
Thanks for this.... I tink every woman in an abusive home needs to see this
Yeah. They should
Would be really helpful
this domestic violence issue is really disheartening... i feel it's on the abused to speak up and let people know what they are going through, its only then they can get help. sadly a great % of the abused keep silent and continue to endure giving themselves false hope.
It’s really sad tho. They fear the abuse might be worse if they do. They just have to find courage to be able to speak up
Nice one
Thanks babe
@victoryudofia,
Nice writing
In real life, battered women often had battered role models when they were young.
Namaste,
JaiChai
Thanks
Speechless!
I know the feeling
Nice story. Keep it up
Thank you
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I totally agree with you
Lovely post.
Your home is yourself and you can love someone into a better person
Thanks