Husband is not willing to share housework? I can’t get used to it, my wife needs a waysteemCreated with Sketch.

in onionrings4 years ago

Regarding husband and wife sharing housework, I have asked many wives a question: If you choose, would you choose to be a full-time wife to take care of the family, or to share housework with your husband?

Without exception, all chose the latter.

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Why is this?

Isn't it a happy thing to be a full-time wife? There is no pressure from the workplace, no need to worry about making money, just take care of the family.

If there is no risk, this is also a better choice. But the biggest variable in the profession of "full-time wife" is the heart of the husband.

It is no exaggeration to say that full-time wives are a high-risk occupation. They have no financial resources, have been out of society for too long, and are completely dependent on their husbands.

In this state, once the husband changes his mind and wants to get a divorce, the full-time wife may have nothing, and may not even be able to keep the children. What's more, the hard work of taking care of a family is not much easier than going to work.

In contrast, of course sharing housework with the husband can give the wife a sense of security and happiness.

But the problem comes again. The husband is unwilling to share the housework, what should I do?

Obviously two people go to get off work together, but after returning home from work, the wife not only cooks, washes dishes, washes clothes, cleans the room, but also takes care of the children, tutors homework, and coaxes the children to sleep. The husband only knows how to play mobile phones, mobile phones, and mobile phones.

After having children, how many families are like this?

The robot wife spins, and the invisible husband takes care of himself.

Why is this so? Are husbands really so lazy? It may just be poor communication!

Think about it, do we often tell our husband to complain and scold him without moving?

If this is the case, the housework will definitely be one-sided, because the husband who was scolded was uncomfortable in his heart, and walked away after a fight, doing housework.

and so. The fundamental reason is that the husband and wife cannot communicate. What should I do?

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Not urgent! Immediately teach you a communication formula-the descending formula, three simple steps, let your husband volunteer to help you with the housework.

  • Step 1: Talk about the specific behavior first
    For example, if you call your husband for help, but he didn't hear him while playing a game, we just need to walk in front of him and say: "I just called you to help me, you are playing a game, didn't you hear it, did you?"
  • Step 2: Speak your trust
    You are so devoted every time you play games. I call you and you can't hear me. It seems that I will have to use a loudspeaker to call you in the future.
  • Step 3: Authorize to him
    Now I need your help. Will you help me after playing the game, or help me now?

After three steps like this, the husband is embarrassed to continue playing the game, won't he help? Surely embarrassed.

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So, in fact, in many cases, as long as we are not so anxious, we should talk to our husband carefully and communicate with him about the distribution of housework, and I believe he will understand you.

Both marriage and family need to be managed. As long as we still want this home, we should manage it well and make it better and better, right?

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