motivation in forgetting

Forget

When we try to forget the painful event, forget the person who made the pain, then we are actually trying to avoid the fact. Run. Even the same, when we want to forget the people we once loved, beautiful things that have passed.then, in fact we are trying to escape from the memory or the rest of reality.

The bad news for all of us, the annoying mechanism happens when we try to run away, the memory is even self-caught. Shouted to go away, he is actually floating above his head. Thrown away, he's like a boomerang back to pierce profusely.the stronger we want to forget, even the closer the knot ties.

How to solve it?

The best recipe is exactly the opposite. Reverse logic. What is that? Start with a feeling of peace for yourself. Make peace. Do not run away from those memories. Let him be present, if necessary hug tightly. Thank you very much.said to himself: "Sy has a past like this, been close to that painful man, thanks for all the facts I will remember with relief, because sy know, tomorrow sy day could be better - and everyone is entitled to chance to improve. " Put the memories in the best position.

Then, an amazing mechanism will happen.slowly but surely, we are actually able to get rid of that memory. Slowly but surely, these memories are unimportant, mediocre. And the more we get used to, the level is the same as the memories we have ever bought the meatball front of the house, drifted by new hal2 more exciting.you know, even the most deadly toxins, when we get used to it, drop by drop into the body, with the right dosage, the day after tomorrow if we are not tainted by the poison, we will become immune. Moreover, memories, obviously get used.

That is the essence of: if you want to forget something or someone, then precisely remember it. Accept all that memory.

Thank for steemian. By @yossua