RELATIONSHIP TALK: IS HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR FRIEND EX A GOOD IDEA?
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This is a very sensitive issue and people barely talk about it. We have seen these things happening and problem usually arises from this, most people tends to stay away owing to the fact that their friend once had something to do with that person. It is a two way thing and both parties has been found guilty, even though we don't talk about this because we are just trying to avoid trouble, so many has had feeling either for their friend's boy friend/ girl friend and some are even waiting patiently for them to breakup.
On a road show, an interview was made and they spoke to random people, I watched when a lady was interviewed and asked if she could date her friend's ex and with utmost shock, she said yes smiling. Then another was asked if she could marry her friend ex and she said she have no problem with that and even if the guy happens to be her sister's ex, she would still go ahead and her reason being that they are no longer together and broke up for reasons that anyone would understand.
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I have also heard a story of a lady dating a guy and the guy treats her like trash. She cooks, washes and does every house chores for her boyfriend whenever she visits but the guy never appreciated her. The guy's friend was always advicing and begging his friend to show appreciation that ladies like that are hard to find but all fell on deaf ears. The friend travelled out of the country and whenever he was about settling down, he came back to Nigeria to find a way and noticed his friend has broken up with the girl long ago and he went ahead to look for the lady and got married to her. And as the story ends, they both travelled out together as a couple.
In this kind of situation, would anyone blame the friend for doing this?
What is your take on this topic in general, Can you marry or date your friend ex girlfriend/boyfriend?
It's somehow though but I'm kind of in between because life has taught me never say never!
Life just have a way of proving us wrong.
If he is good for me and he broke up with my friend for a good reason may be I will think about it. Lol
Okay, what if he left your friend for just no reason and you knew you friend wasn't all that faithful. What would you do?
Like I said if he is good for me I might date him!
Beauty and brain kills me, if my friend's ex has it, then why not?
But I've never like-like any of my friends' girlfriends. I see them as a no go area, whether ex or present.
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Actually it depends, you know this our heart can deceive us so much. You might be thinking that your friend actually want you guys together, not knowing that he is jealous, he has to play along with you. But you mistakenly fall off ,he fall in. One thing we should have in mind is this
every body isn't thesame. For me if you don't treat her right, I will.
Hahahahaha, I get that
Hehehehe, this is hard for me oo....hahahahahaha i can never do it...
How manage, how are we going to it?.
U know this kind of thing can be largely relative and has so many ends
Ask yourself these question.
Are you ready to lose your relationship with your friend whose ex you are about to date or marry? It's not a surprise to see that friendship turns sour after your supposed friend with whim you shared the good, bad and ugly of your relationship chooses to date or marry your ex. Some things are better said than done. You will give your friend the impression that you've always wanted a break up so you could hook up with their now ex. The problem is further complicated if you initiated or suggested ways to help with the breakup. Trust and friendship will be broken for life. No explanation of "I was never attracted to him while you both were dating will suffice".
Love is a choice. It isn't an emotion totally beyond our control. If your friendship with your friend never meant anything to you, then go ahead. If you are sure your friend will do same if position were switched, then go ahead. But if you do value your friendship with your friend, let go. There are over a billion faces in the planet. You will find another man.
Hmmmmm, musing response. Well, you have a point. If he contributed to the breakup then there is a problem. This means if the friend didn't contribute. He is free to date her then
Yes. She may be free to date him but the friend whose ex she's about to date should not be kept in the dark to prevent bad belle.
Many people would say they see nothing wrong in it sha...it all depends on what exactly lead to there breakup...seriously i cant date my frnds ex no matter what..cause if its been done to me i won't like that either..if u are my frnd and u date my ex .just consider our friendship OVER.
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Well, I can't even think of it, I don't have stupid friends because I am not stupid. So whatever reason that made my friend dump her must be a serious one and so I can't date my friend's vomit. It's disgusting to even think about it....damn!
Sorry I may disagree here, not all guys are nice to a lady in every relationship. Some guys finds fault in everything a girl does and if that be the case and the guy's friend appreciated what his friend is throwing away. Is it also wrong for the guy to catch it?
Lolz, like I said earlier, the kind of friends I have are not the kind that will treat a lady badly. So lets not go there.
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This is really nice @yungchief, having affairs with your friend ex is irritating to me, cuz my friend has seen her all and this kind of attitude is common in guys, when a girl leave us, we tend to say it with all confidence I don chop that babe and leave her in such scenario, after my friend has said that to me several times and I went on showing interest to the particular gurl, probably I was captivated by her new charming packagechoi it's really disgusting to me, I cant have affairs with my friend ex.
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Hahahahaha, this is the definition of I love what I hate. Thanks for your contribution
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