Are men who dress provocatively responsible for unwanted attention, or should women learn to control themselves?

There was a title in @ecotrain, just like every week, that we need to write a post with. This time that title was a question: "Are women who dress provocatively responsible for unwanted attention, or should men learn to control themselves?". A rebel that I am, decided to take a different approach and instead of focusing on the expected, went on to write a text about how stupid people sometimes are. We are. Stupid. More often than we think, all of us. Yes you and yes me, stupid. Do not get offended by it, try to be smarter instead.

Just as my arms and legs, my lungs, hearth or my bellybutton are not defining me, neither is my vagina. (yes, I said vagina, deal with it) I am who I am with everything on and inside of my body. It would be crazy to think that my liver is somehow determining how my life will be wouldn't it? We are so obsessed with our sexual organs and when it comes to being violent to each other, we discriminate other organs. Why are we not dividing each other by our bellybuttons? Some have them in and some have them out. Why are people with outies not against those with bellybuttons that are shaped like holes? Why are people with bellybuttons that are out not declaring themselves superior? Because that is stupid you say? No sh*t...

Why is then not stupid to be divided because of our sexual organs? Whenever someone says that he or she is against violence on women, they are dividing. When they say they are against raping women, they are dividing. Dividence is empowering violence. Did I step on some toes there? Good, because I am just warming up.

When I like a person, I like her because of who he or she is. It has nothing to do with her nationality, religion, political views, music that she listens to, the way she dresses and it most definitely has nothing to do with her gender. It has everything to do with how she acts toward others and herself. Same goes for those I do not like. It also goes for those that I feel sorry for or proud of.

I really do not like labels and how they are dividing people. We are so surprised with all the racism and religious hate in the world and yet we are fine with separating ourselves into men and women. Sure, we are different physically but that is about it. I resent when people talk to me about what is expected of me as a woman and I equally resent when people talk to men about what is expected of them because they are men. That is the reason why I changed the title. I resent talking about violence on women. There is NO violence on women. There is violence on people. WOMEN ARE PEOPLE!

Oh, yes you are. Violence is always wrong, ALWAYS. It does not matter if people are hurting men, women or children. It is wrong. When you are saying how you are against violence on women, you are promoting violence by segregating women, by labeling us different than men or children.

Do you know why there are so many abused women in the world? Because there are so many men who do not see them as equal. They do not see them as equal because the anti-violence campaigns are wrong. They are isolating women, portraying them as week, gentle, and different than men. We do not hurt what we know and we do not hurt what we feel connected with or our own.

Pshychology has proven how a person is more inclined to show aggression toward those that are different than those that he feels are like him because hurting those that are like him is not natural. It is in our genes to form tribes and defend those tribes. We need a sense of belonging to a certain group. Are we not evolved enough to accept that the human race is our tribe? Only when we stop advertising how we are against violence on women and start advocating us being against violence in general will women all over the world finally be safe from the tyranny of idiots.

All people, men and women, should be educated how we are equal and how violence is never an option. A couple of days ago, I have written a post about violence and in that post made a list of hotlines and websites you can call or visit if you or anyone you know is being abused in any way. If your country is not on the list, please contact me and the list will be updated. You can check that post by clicking on the image below.

We are all very subjective when looking at others which is completely normal. What I see as attractive may be hideous to you and what I find interesting may be boring to others. What we all find provocative is subjective too.

To some, wearing a skirt that shows knees is provocative and some go bananas when they see a shoulder. Others are more inclined to say how showing cleavage or wearing high-inch heels is provocative and those who object messages like sexy, pretty, hot on clothes. We all have a right to our opinion but NO, you do not have the right to act on your opinion. HER CLOTHES DO NOT JUSTIFY YOUR BEHAVIOR. They never do. Men who say that women are dressing provocatively and "asking for it" should be neutered and even then never allowed on beaches. Women are in their swimsuits on beaches, are they "asking for it" there too?

There are women too who think women "are asking for it" with the way they dress. They should be neutered too. If there is something I will never understand it is women being against women. Psychologically, that is just so messed up that it needs professional help.