I face similar issues I guess, but you give a different twist to them and term them differently (perfectionism? how about 'the need for real connection and love'? or how about 'idealism', which is close to 'romanticism', I mean as opposed to 'realism')

What if you met a person who was very good at only one thing, but was insatiably curious about everything else, i.e. a person who can learn. Wouldn't you be happy with such a person? And, as you say, being with them itself would mean you'd "grow and change together, at least in sync enough that you remain a strongly bonded pair".