Being feared or being used?
As I stroll along the road, I can see and quietly keep my distance while I just observe the conduct of my fellow people. Many of the people in my community do a good job at carrying burdens without any complaint because they want to desperately get the approval of their neighbors. In fact, they are most of the times even treated like the animals which bear a load of salt, the sad little donkeys. They are held in no respect whatsoever but convinced to find pride in being work horses when they're mere donkeys, mere laborers.
In some cases not all though but in some, it's better to be feared. If you have big teeth in the jungle, all the other animals remain well away from the gates of your territory. This is a truth of life in our world. Personally, I don't appreciate being used, let me use the word abused, so you don't get the wrong idea that I'm not a team player.
If you are weak, you quickly become the welcome mat of others. And they'll gaslight you into thinking that's the right thing, they give you a moral compass that benefits only them.
Your visitors might treat you badly, they might step on you or figuratively wipe their shoes on you, you're their mat. It's better when they despise you, at least they're not on top of you and taking advantage. Some people believe being nice is a job to be done. It doesn't have to be a must all the time. A guy cries because he had been abused emotionally by his superior and accepts it because he's been taught to respect those with authority over him.
The guy is a donkey in comparison to others. The one who wanders in the woods is called the wolf and it looks like a bad stigma but he has no one riding on him to get to market, he has no master so he will not be fed but as long as he can feed himself, he becomes his own king.
Being hated is what I call a price you pay for keeping your head up in self respect when you are among people.
This is entirely a subjective opinion I shared and I would love to have others' opinions on being used or being feared.
Original source of the image from Pixabay but edited by me
Let’s see...: I don’t mind being taken advantage of now and then. I don’t need to gain an advantage from everything I do, or even just a personal benefit. But – please note, this is my conscious decision. I allow myself to be taken advantage of up to a certain point. However, if it’s done in a sneaky, underhand, deliberate way, then my anger will know no bounds!
I feel like that's the right perspective for this situation because being a full blown wolf will just make you lonely and being a full blown donkey makes you over used so trying to get a balance so you don't become a person that can't be a team player and also so you don't get taken advantage of is what this might do. You've answered a serious delimma I had
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