They get familiar with your consistency for some reason

A lot of people start behaving differently towards you when they realize that every single time that they try to get access to you, they will get the access that they're looking for from you. You will have a friend that keeps calling late at night. He never asks whether you are busy or anything. He just expects you to pick up the phone whenever he calls. At the very beginning, you would think of this as normal, but after some time, they stop saying thank you for everything you do for them. If you consider it as a one day thing, nothing bad really happened. But their behavior towards you will change slowly, and it is because you stayed open all the time. It can happen anywhere.

When you're at work, it happens a lot. When you're with your friends, it happens, and especially in relationships. Oh. At the workplace, for instance, if you have a worker who says yes every single time a task is given to them, eventually that worker gets more work put on him. It may seem that he's a good worker and he might even get rewards for it, but at the end of the day, he's going to get more work for doing more work than anybody else. The manager over that worker stops checking whether it is fair that that individual or that person works harder than everybody else. It doesn't get the therapy or the fair time to rest.

So that means the person who avails himself to work becomes the person that everyone starts depending on without even thinking about it. If you say yes every single day, it looks like you're building trust, but what you're really doing is you're teaching people That your time has no value and they can get to use it every single time. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying ignore people or be selfish. However, you're supposed to set boundaries and put value or premium on your own time.

Some people have the habit of replying messages the very same second they get it every single time. It's great to do something like that. It shows that you care and that you're willing to respond, but it is better that sometimes you create some sort of gap to create value. If you are a busy person, that means that there are times where your phone wouldn't be with you. but the moment it takes you hours to reply that message you've been replying instantly every single time, suddenly that individual that expected your immediate response is really upset. That anger the person is expressing is coming from a habit that you allowed to grow without any limits because you didn't set boundaries.

If you create a pattern and it becomes easy, people stop seeing effort behind it, and that is when they lose value for it. Anything that is effortless or easy loses value at some point. When there are new friendships, there is so much mutual respect, so much mutual love, and so much mutual honor, and it is because it's new and everybody watches each other's actions and are careful not to make a mess of the relationship or of the friendship.

They plan their meetings or their get-togethers with respect and mutual agreement. They speak carefully, they respect each other's time. But after a few months, Some plans can get canceled last minute with either a very little excuse or no excuse at all. Whoever did that has started seeing less value because he or she is now familiar with the friendship. If nothing is pushing people to stay mindful of the value of the friendship or the relationship or your value, then eventually they get comfortable with you and they lose respect for you or the friendship or the relationship. But even if you're in that situation, it's not the end because you could always reverse it by creating distance.

Distance changes behavior so fast. People easily notice absence more than they notice the constant supply of the same thing over and over again. You must learn to say no to certain requests, not because you can't do it, but to keep the relationship fresh and to keep value fresh.

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Original source of the image from Pixabay but edited by me

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