Useful tips for good communication with children

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Communication with children is essential, it is very true that children talk a lot, conversations are different and the function of their age depends on them. There comes a time when, instead of speaking with parents, they talk more with friends.

Depending on the age and the evolutionary process of the children, a conversation takes place, of more quality or of more quantity.

When children are small to an age of ten (10) or eleven (11) years, the child is fascinated by their parents, and that is when they try to tell everything, get attention, they are very curious. Children ask and believe everything parents tell them.

Since preadolescence and adolescence there is a change, children begin to identify with their peers, credibility is more in friends than in parents.

It's when they start to:

• Start the questioning process.
• They want to cross some limits.
• They are less conformist.

Small conflicts appear that can hinder communication, such as:

• The child is more reserved.
• Comment with friends, because with adults there is a part of shame.

Then, the children reach a phase in which they stop being adolescents between the seventeen (17) years in which they have a critical opinion, they have their own ideas and they like to share them, they reaffirm to speak of values and politics. Children want to show parents or representatives who are already adults.

Appearing after all the above, the most empathic part, where the child becomes an adult with responsibilities, and begins to understand everything he did not understand when he was a child.

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How is communication with children sought?

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Parents should set limits, since by converting the conversation into colleagues or friends, the child may get confused.

You have to know how to differentiate between:

• The closeness.
• In knowing how to approach a topic with children in a calm environment.
• Be able to negotiate with children.
• Always be respectful.

Another thing is to share everything and not know how to set the limits. The role of parents apart from inculcating values, protecting children is to set a series of limits, which friends will not do.

You can not confuse the two (02) roles, one thing is friends and another thing is parents.

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Can you talk to children about any topic without problem?

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It all depends on age, but there are problems that are only for adults, such as concerns related to the economy, problems that children will not understand and that can also create fear in them.

The topics that can and should be discussed mainly and should always be open to what interests the children, for example:

• The children's own problems.
• Be open to what the child demands and therefore to the questions they have.
• Topics of conversation directly and indirectly related to values.

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What should you be aware of when engaging in conversations with children?

• Take care of the moment to talk. If you are going to deal with a problem, conflictual in which there may be discrepancies, you should look for relaxed moments to do so.
• Show attention for what the child says. Speaking of attention is a bidirectional process. You have to let the person respond and know what you think.
• Non-verbal communication matters. Nonverbal communication must be consistent with what is said.
• The distractions must be out of place. These distractions can be, magazines, television, cell phones among others.
• Not everything is negotiable. You can not say "yes" to everything, so that children do not get frustrated. It must be taught that standards and values must be met.

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What can you never say to children?

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To avoid hurting them in their safety and self-esteem, children should never be told:

• Humiliating words.
• Disrespect them.
• Raise your voice.
• You do not need authority, yelling at children.

He can not do anything that can diminish his self-esteem, because the child tends to behave in a way that is counterproductive to him.

Parents should never forget that the communication process is a factor of success in the development of children and, therefore, communication will help them in the long road they must travel.

The more solid, effective and honest the communication you have with children, from parents to children, and the communication of children with parents, you will surely have better social ties.

Communication must be strengthened to promote children's self-esteem.

Greetings educators and motivators of education.

@SteemitEducation

@Edu-Venezuela

 

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