The story of growing up---'Why could not you?'

'Why could not you?' I was exceptionally amazed when I originally heard this. Because the words came out of my father's mouth. I'll be in class then. The result of the class one exams is out. I could not be the first. Not even seconds. My position will be on the third or fourth. That is why my mother's eyes started fluttering. And the father said, 'What are you lacking? Why could not you? 'Today after many years, I have been admitted to various university examinations. I still have to go through this kind of talk. It's a big surprise, I try; But I can never do it perfectly. Or I can say, maybe I can, But that is not my parents very much.

The above words are just a young student who is crossing a teenager. Most of the students of any age in our country have to go through this kind of feeling.

What psychologists say

'Why could he? Why do not you? '- These words are not liked by psychologists. They said, rather than short it is better to say 'You will be able to!' It can be created by people of any age. The issue of comparison between neighbors or relatives is comparable to the same or almost the same age group. Even the parents of the parents of the office of parents of the office are added to this comparison. Students are always in competition with each other. The direct and indirect efforts of the people continued to move ahead of them. The question 'why you could not?'

From the guardian's place

Families can play a major role in judging student success and failure. But remember, this assessment will always be positive. The extent to which it has been achieved is to be appreciated first. Being able to get good results and big business is not the ultimate aim of life. Everyone does not fall in BUET, medical or university. If you look at the lives and pursuits of successful people, you may want to ridicule academic results many times. Your child; You surely want her good. Then why did he get admitted there? Why can not you? 'Why would you face a child with such a big stressful question?

What is the teacher's job?

The teachers do not ask this question- "Why can not you be fast?" Because he understands at least- not everyone will be in the first class. But teachers also make mistakes. They think, why this boy is not attentive to the class? Why will he be tested? Etc. It is worth mentioning that even now teachers want to measure education with just GPA. They also sigh and said, 'No, with this result and not able to do anything in life!' But the real purpose of education is to open all the edges of fine consciousness and greater humanity. It can be easy to say, make good people. If the teacher can not do this original work, at least the student will give a clear idea about the future prospects of academic study and various aspects of the opportunity.

Student suggestions

Not everyone is the same. And in the future, everyone will not choose a profession. Therefore, the first counsel for the student is that no failure should be made to make the pin of depression leak the balloon of hope. Your career is in your hands And there is nothing to say about the ultimate success. So keep on stairs leading up to any small and big failure. Contesting with a classmate or a peer friend can be and it is also good to have it. However, competition does not mean that someone else is lynched. Rather than taking the competition ahead of yourself; And see the friend next to him.