Conflict at Marriage
In every conflict at marriage, both you and your husband must have their own faults. But if all those mistakes are delegated to you, it's a sign that a marriage is in trouble.
Not a few husbands who blame his wife in every conflict that occurred in the household. When it's prolonged, you should be more vigilant.
According to a marriage consultant quoted from About.com, Dawn Hawkins, a characteristic husband who likes to blame his wife usually has an incredible confidence. He likes to dominate and control his wife.
But on the other hand, sometimes it's the women who let it grow. Try to do introspection, have hard words from your husband to make your self-confidence collapsed and finally eliminate the confidence? That is the beginning of this 'blame cycle' started.
Sometimes the prestige of a man is also the reason why they blame their partner. If his wife is more successful in many ways, and the husband feels unacceptable, he tries to find a way to make himself look better than his wife. One of them is to blame.
If the above happens in your marriage, do not blame yourself directly. Remember, marriage is a two-way relationship. Likewise with the conflict that occurred, also caused by both parties.
Overcoming this by way of lowering the husband is also not the right thing. Instead you have to make it conscious, how you respect it. With that, the husband will do the same.
If the household atmosphere gets heated up, and communication tends to go one way, quickly get help from a third person to become a deterrent. Hiring a wedding consultant service is also a step
yes that is why every body planning to get married must prepare him/her self for what married life holds.
good post