Control || 5-minute Daily Freewrite by @mariannewest

Often times, when I saw my son out of control, I tend to ask him to control himself. Or I would ask him to calm down. That suggestion itself would make him even worse, because he got upset with me asking him to control himself when he was already obviously could not.

I humbled myself and acknowledged I was making a mistake in saying so. Trying to improve as a mother, so I read up this article, that blog, this parenting website, so on and so forth.

Turns out it is true that children's inability to control themselves is valid. They can't. And they just can't. It has to do with the development of the brain — one part of their brain is still growing.

Ironically, when children cannot control themselves and start to have meltdown or throwing some tantrum, you notice adults follow suit. I thought adult's brains are fully developed? Go figure. Haha.

Well, I was guilty as charge. So I vowed to improve.

I have improved alot since then. I learn that when my sons become uncontrollable that is the moment they need me to be the most controlled person. Able to squat down to their eye-level and still tell them, "I know you are having big feelings now and it is challenging, so mummy is right here with you" instead of "control yourself please!".

Parenting is a gift. A blessing. To unlearn and relearn many things. Because you tend realise you also actually can't control yourself and you are starting to learn to control yourself in times of children's meltdown.

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