You are clearly a giver....even to the cat...i surely understand...i have had more gardens fail than live...I gave up on blueberries altogether...never could get them to grow...I wish I had the words or mechanic wisdom to give but definite deficiencies on my part. ...I can pray ..so I will do that...sounds like you have one wonderful roommate. :)
more blessings coming...I know!
Melissa