FEMININE INFLUENCE
1 BUT KING SOLOMON LOVED MANY FOREIGN WOMEN, as well as the daughter of Pharaoh: women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites—
2 FROM THE NATIONS OF WHOM THE LORD HAD SAID TO THE CHILDREN OF ISRAEL, “YOU SHALL NOT INTERMARRY WITH THEM, NOR THEY WITH YOU. SURELY THEY WILL TURN AWAY YOUR HEARTS AFTER THEIR gods.” SOLOMON CLUNG TO THESE IN LOVE.
3 AND HE HAD SEVEN HUNDRED WIVES, PRINCESSES, AND THREE HUNDRED CONCUBINES; AND HIS WIVES TURNED AWAY HIS HEART.
4 For it was so, WHEN SOLOMON WAS OLD, THAT HIS WIVES TURNED HIS HEART AFTER OTHER gods; and his heart was not loyal to the LORD his God, as was the heart of his father David."
1 Kings 11:1–4 (NKJV)
We could see the power of feminine influence on Solomon. God had earlier warned the Israelites not to intermarry with the heathen nations around them, because they would turn their hearts towards their gods, against the God of heaven (Deuteronomy 7:3,4).
Solomon did not heed the word of God said or told to the Israelites, he went ahead to marry wives from those nations which God had told the Israelites not to intermarry with; he married to the extent of seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines—those wives turned his heart away from God (Deuteronomy 7:3,4; 1 Kings 11:2,3).
You as a believing woman can use your influence positively or negatively, you can influence your spouse, your husband, to be for God; that is, to serve God with all his heart, or contrarily turn his heart against God (2 Peter 3:2). The stability of a man's spiritual life is to a large extent dependent on the type of wife he has.
Even a man that is not all that godly could be influenced for God by the wife through her character, her submissiveness:
1 . . . IF SOME HUSBANDS DO NOT OBEY GOD'S TEACHING, THEY WILL BE PERSUADED TO BELIEVE WITHOUT ANYONE'S SAYING A WORD TO THEM. THEY WILL BE PERSUADED BY THE WAY THEIR WIVES LIVE. 2 YOUR HUSBANDS WILL SEE THE PURE LIVES YOU LIVE WITH YOUR RESPECT FOR GOD" (1 Peter 3:1,2 New Century Version).
The question now is, as a believing woman, how are you using your feminine influence? Are you using it to make men do contrary to God's will? This is not applicable to married women alone, there are some single sisters in the church having illicit affairs, unlawful or immoral affairs, with men in the church, even married men, who are called brothers in Christ; and the wives of such brothers are known to these single sisters having illicit affairs with them.
Some so-called believing women use there feminine influence or seduction to woo men to do contrary to God's will and Word. If you do not repent, God's wrath would eventually come.
Now, It is commonly believed that females or women do not propose or toast men by themselves, but men are expected to do that; but that might be far from the truth in this modern time. Even women in the fold of believers have ways of making their interest known to the men they are interested in, even in a way that is not supported by the Bible.
If this was limited to the unmarried believing sisters, that may be understandable, one would think they are looking or searching for a right person to marry. But, what would it be said of the unmarried sisters in the church or single parents or babymamas trying to woo the married men in the church, even in the same fold or assembly.
In fact, some of such so-called sisters would not mind wooing their pastors or other leaders in the church, and this is the reason why adulterous act is rampant in the church today:
20 NEVERTHELESS I HAVE A FEW THINGS AGAINST YOU, BECAUSE YOU ALLOW THAT WOMAN JEZEBEL, WHO CALLS HERSELF A PROPHETESS, TO TEACH AND SEDUCE MY SERVANTS TO COMMIT SEXUAL IMMORALITY and eat things sacrificed to idols. 21 AND I GAVE HER TIME TO REPENT OF HER SEXUAL IMMORALITY, AND SHE DID NOT REPENT. 22 INDEED I WILL CAST HER INTO A SICKBED, AND THOSE WHO COMMIT ADULTERY WITH HER INTO GREAT TRIBULATION, UNLESS THEY REPENT OF THEIR DEEDS. 23 I WILL KILL HER CHILDREN WITH DEATH, AND ALL THE CHURCHES SHALL KNOW THAT I AM HE WHO SEARCHES THE MINDS AND HEARTS. AND I WILL GIVE TO EACH ONE OF YOU ACCORDING TO YOUR WORKS" (Revelation 2:20-23 NKJV).
What is happening in the world; in the secular workplaces, community or neighborhood where people live, and places where God is not reverenced, is now happening in the fold of believers—the church of Christ Jesus.
If you are into such acts, you would need to repent and desist from it, because God's judgement on those who do that might be severe—He avenges for those who are being cheated on:
3 FOR THIS IS THE WILL OF GOD, YOUR SANCTIFICATION: THAT YOU SHOULD ABSTAIN FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY; 4 THAT EACH OF YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO POSSESS HIS OWN VESSEL IN SANCTIFICATION AND HONOUR, 5 NOT IN PASSION OF LUST, LIKE THE GENTILES [unbelievers] WHO DO NOT KNOW GOD; 6 THAT NO ONE SHOULD TAKE ADVANTAGE OF AND DEFRAUD HIS BROTHER IN THIS MATTER, BECAUSE THE LORD IS THE AVENGER OF ALL SUCH, as we also forewarned you and testified. 7 FOR GOD DID NOT CALL US TO UNCLEANNESS, BUT IN HOLINESS" (1 Thessalonians 4:3-7 NKJV).
Peace.