Welcome back. Sorry about your recent losses. Religion is a very controversial topic and the sad thing is that if practiced with honesty and coherence it should be the favorite conversation topic anywhere.
If religious leaders of all denomination honored the alleged love, virtue, and goodness I their sacred texts, we should not need to avoid the topic because there would be agreement on the fundamental issue of making humanity better and the world a paradise.
Your stories are just shocking. I do not know what I would do if a religious person tried to interfere with my personal life.
Peace