I am fairly active in Freemasons and have seen it in other groups too: We value formality. I own 4 tuxedos now and I find them comfortable, even for ballroom dancing. Of course I am comfortable in sweatpants and a tee-shirt, but being formal has great value too. Think about the lax airing of "dirty laundry" on so many social media platforms. Is that You? Probably not....Formality is a type of gravitas for me. I carry it fairly well too, at least in my own mind and images of self. It might seem like a weakness sometimes, but a weakness you are well aware of is actually called a "strength." Steem on!