Had a moment of realization about a drunk idiot friend

She's been my friend for years and I have well, kind of enjoyed her company for the amount of time that I have known her but it was over the weekend that she got in touch with me to tell me that she was going down to the beach and the place she was headed to is one of the places that I actually like going to because it is far enough away from hotels that it isn't completely overrun with tourists.

We all know that it is much easier to just stay at home in the air con, particularly when it is a billions degrees outside like it is now but I like to be a good friend and said I would go and meet her.

It wasn't easy to get to her though and I could sense that something was not right from the start because she wasn't typing messages anymore, she was trying to call me and sending voice clips, which I don't really like. Sorry/not sorry but I am one of those people that feels as though there really isn't very many good reasons to ever call someone these days.

Anyway, it was pretty evident to me when I got the voice clip that she was already drunk and this was surprising to me because it was 2 o'clock in the afternoon.

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I was still going to follow up on my plan to go and meet up with her but this wasn't going to be easy because I couldn't make any sense of the voice messages that she sent to me... neither could the transcribing feature on whatsapp that I believe is powered by AI and is probably better than I am at understanding drunk-ass.

If that looks like a bunch of nonsense trust me, the reality is much worse than that. When the transcribe feature, that is versed in all languages and accents, can't make heads or tails of what you are saying. You are not understandable.

I kind of knew the general area that she was going to and there is a coffeeshop that I like there and used to take Nadi to before dogs were banned there so I figured that the worst case scenario was that I would get there, have a coffee, have a walk on the sand, then go back home.

I was drinking my coffee when the call came in and even though I was sitting less than 50 meters from where she was, she couldn't figure out where I was. I could see her, I told her to turn around, was waving my arms, and she still couldn't see me.

I could tell even from that distance that she was sloppy drunk.

If you don't get drunk all the time let me tell you what sloppy drunk means.

• you are loud
• you laugh, or more like cackle, at your own unfunny jokes
• you are aggressive and tend to interrupt others
• you think you are being suave or charming or funny but you are really just annoying
• people tend to avoid you
• you are seriously sensitive while also being quite mean to others

She was all of these things but I am no punk so I went down there to talk to her anyway. It wasn't much of a talk because she was indecipherable for the most part. I had to ask her to repeat herself over and over again and then she started to get frustrated and accuse me of having bad hearing. That's another aspect of being "sloppy drunk." you get emotional and insulted rather easily even though it is you that is being insulting.

I also noticed that she was kind of harassing this younger couple that was nearby and I could tell that she thought she was being smooth (she wasn't) and I could also tell that they really just wanted her to leave them alone. They would end up moving to some other chairs before I left as well.

Take a hint lady, why don't ya?

This is a beach city and she was on the beach wearing a bikini. This is something else that was well, kind of gross. The years of alcohol abuse have taken its toll on her and her skinny fat belly which probably hasn't seen a situp in a decade just looked disgusting. She was completely shameless about it though.

I didn't bother to bring up any of this at the time though because I knew that it would just spiral out of control and she would get loud and abusive.

I didn't last for very long. I made up an excuse that was a lie about meeting some other people somewhere else and how I was already a few minutes later and needed to get going. I had no plans.. I just didn't want to be there anymore. It was embarrassing to be near this obnoxious woman who was about to fall out of her ill-fitting swimwear at any moment. There was absolutely nothing attractive about it either. This lady is in her 40's and behaves like she is a 22 year old on Spring Break.

I would later pop her a message saying "how are you so smashed at 2 in the afternoon?"

I'm no saint when it comes to alcohol but I am never like this. I can sense when I am losing the ability to speak and if I ever catch myself being loud even by accident I take stock of the situation and normally will leave.

I had noticed that this woman doesn't really have a lot of friends anymore and I don't think she is very happy either. I just don't know if anyone can do anything for her because the booze has completely taken control of her... I think this is true of anyone that manages to be that smashed just after noon time.

I think I will approach her about this some weekday when she is sober but I am sure it will be met with defensiveness. She will probably try to accuse me of being a drunk as well or judging her or whatever.

What do you think? Should i just leave it alone? Should I say "you get too drunk for me to want to hang out with you," should I intervene.

Like I said, I am no stranger to booze. I am a borderline alcoholic myself but this woman, she is well over the border already. I'm just amazed that she hasn't managed to destroy her worklife, she must just stay at home during the week and never go and do anything. At the moment she has one of the best and high-paying jobs in Da Nang but if her bosses were to ever see her like this, especially on a work night, I think that could quickly change.

Some people just shouldn't drink. once you are no longer fun "on the sauce" perhaps it is time to put the sauce down.