What you said is true but I believe that you missed out something important from the equation. You need to think from the other persons perspective as well, what he or she May be going through. But it's easier said than done. You may not be in receiving mode always and it's very difficult to understand what the other person is feeling. The best thing is self evaluation and getting stronger than before...

And just like you said all you have to do is ask for help. Then it's upto the other person to reply...

:-)