I was a fence-sitter in regards to having children. I have a healthy, brilliant daughter I can be proud of and whom I love dearly. It hasn't been easy in the sense that I've had to stomach things for my child's sake that I would otherwise never have had to face at all or would have responded to differently - and it could've easily turned out much, much worse. Would I do it again? Well, I haven't and will not. But the alternative of never having had my daughter is difficult to imagine. Of course, I remember my life as a single young man but I've never experienced life as a childless bachelor in my mid-forties. What would I be thinking and experiencing? What insights would I lack, if any? To what extent would I be different from the person I'm now?

You will have to assess the validity of your fears yourself. We all have our own unique personalities and circumstances.